20 And Cant Start Relationships?

[EveHarrington]

I'm not so sure that the opposite of isolating is getting into a romantic relationship.

 

[xraydave]

I'm not so sure that the opposite of isolating is getting into a romantic relationship.

I wasnt saying that really. but saying the opposite of isolating, is putting oneself into situations where they can participate in any normal life events.

if i just go 'work on myself first' like i did for a really long time not too long ago, i might just keep looking forever. there is no simple way out. i wish i could say that advice would help me very much, but working on oneself can lead to isolation in my case.

i think you may be reading a little too much in to what i'm saying? :(

 

[EveHarrington]

Ok. But sometimes with PTSD we want the rewards of a normal life now without working on getting those things in a sequential manner. Idk where you are in treatment but I think that someone wanting a normal relationship without having worked on them self first can be disastrous when they have PTSD.

 

[xraydave]

Ok. But sometimes with PTSD we want the rewards of a normal life now without working on getting t...

that's actually really true advice. i cant always expect a rewarding experience, there needs to be something, hardwork or connections which lead up to that :)
Thank you. that was very helpful.

im somewhere in treatment where i no longer felt i needed to go to psychotherapy, and tapered off this 'over-medicating' and 'over-self-diagnosing of a myriad of disorders'. in and out of psych wards and psychotherapists' and counselling rooms.

but relapse happens, we need to deal, work through it and move on. i understand.

edit: i guess i have some way to go, even after all of this, and i was even seeing your responses to my query as threatening. everything is viewed through that lens. it has nothing to do with the person. so maybe i have to work on it, but i will have to create some sort of balance in myself, between not over self analyzing but also working on the 'ptsd' , 'threat-perceptions' and 'hypervigilance' itself.