A few random therapy questions

[Deleted member 42665]

Saw these on another forum and thought I'd ask here cuz I like reading the answers.

1-- Has anyone been social media "Friends' with their therapist or keep in touch when therapy ended?

2-- Do you give them gifts ever or they you? (Cards included)

3-- What does their office look like?

4-- Have you ever sat on the floor in session?

My answers just for fun

1--- No, he says he doesn't add clients but often reminds me he has a FB account so idk, sometimes I feel like he wants to add me lol. He has browsed my dog's pages though.

2-- no, but I'd consider a holiday card

3-- very small. a few pics, dim lighting, shades open, desk, 2 chairs, fan

4-- yes, it sorta happened by accident on may 30 and ever since we do always now, i like it better and is to the point, that if he is ready before me, he is already sitting LOL

 

[Mach123]

1. No. Not that I wouldn't or I think there is anything wrong with it, it just never happened.
2.Gifts are a big no no according to every therapist I ever mentioned it to.
3. The office I go to now is at a private practice and it's very nice. I don't know how I would describe it. A couch where I sit/lie, a couple chairs, a desk, a couple windows, it's spacious and well appointed.
4.Yes, we have done body work but in general I sometimes sit on the floor, lie on the couch, sit cross legged, lie down, get up and pace.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

1. No
2. No
3. Medium/small, cheerful warm colors, uncomfortable creaky couch that is set to deep and lots of pillows but they are too small. (planning to try chair or floor next time)
4. Will try floor.

 

[loui50]

1. Nope
2. with y previous T i did give her one home made gift that I cross stitched for her of a prayer. Nothing worth money.
3. Very small, 2 recliners and her office chair with a desk. It's kida cozy, an always HOT in there. but maybe I'm hot because I'm anxious, lol
4. No

 

[Hopefully]

1. No, very much not like that, very clear boundaries.
2. I wrote a thank you card at the end of a block of treatment, it felt like a way to express myself in a way I wanted to be heard, rather than the closed off person she saw in sessions. It allowed me to say more than I would have been able to say in person.
3. Small generic room, desk, computer, 2 chairs, coffee table with box of tissues (which I hate, reminds me I don't know how to cry), a clock that ticks unbearably loudly.
4. No, I can't imagine that happening.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

1-- Has anyone been social media "Friends' with their therapist or keep in touch when therapy ended? No, that's not allowed here.

2-- Do you give them gifts ever or they you? (Cards included) No

3-- What does their office look like? Just bland with 2 chairs, table and a clock

4-- Have you ever sat on the floor in session? No

 

[UnicornSightings]

No to the first one. That wouldn't be allowed although I do look at her fb page once in a great while. A few posts are public.

No to gifts. I would feel weird and they aren't expected. I prob will get her a card when I end up leaving though.

Office is small. Dimly-lit. Cool white rug, pretty blue chairs with furry white pillows. A mirror and a clock and a photo of a flower (in it, the shape of an old woman's face. I pointed this out to her but I don't think she saw it). Books, pretty things, a singing bowl. It's stuff from her house when she moved that didn't fit and the old furniture belonged to a different therapist. I like that it's her stuff.

No, haha there's barely room for our feet! Would be kinda cool, though.

 

[mrsps]

1-- Has anyone been social media "Friends' with their therapist or keep in touch when therapy ended? Yes my old T, I added her a few years after I stopped seeing her. Then I moved back to my old town and started seeing her again and after awhile she deleted me as friends lol. But never said anything about deleting me. I stopped seeing her not long after that. I have found my current T on Facebook but would never add her as a friend as I am sure she would not accept.

2-- Do you give them gifts ever or they you? (Cards included) Yes, home made gifts and cards, also sent flowers to my current T when she was having an op. Although I didn't sign my name on the card just put "from someone who cares" she somehow (I never asked her how) figured out they were from me and thanked me at the end of our next session, I never replied!!

3-- What does their office look like? My T works from home its a garage renovated into a room. Its nice enough. A couch for me and a chair opposite for her, a small table that always has a small vase with fresh flowers in it. behind the couch is a bookshelf, filling cabinet. Pictures on the wall and another small bookshelf with some soft toys and bits and pieces on it.

4-- Have you ever sat on the floor in session? Yes quite often, I sit on the floor right next to my T's chair so I am as close to her as possible. If we are talking about something that is difficult for me or embarrassing I sometimes hide my head behind her chair so she cant see me.

 

[Bristol]

1-- Has anyone been social media "Friends' with their therapist or keep in touch when therapy ended? Nope have the odd look at her instagram page but other than that no.

2-- Do you give them gifts ever or they you? (Cards included) no

3-- What does their office look like? Its a hired room in a community building so lots of tables and chairs though we always sit on the same 2

4-- Have you ever sat on the floor in session?
No but im going to try this next session i feel too self conscious on that horrible chair.

 

[NewBeginnings]

Hi -
1) no to FB friending. I don't do much with it anyway.
2) no gifts but after about a year she was going to be away for 3 weeks because her daughter was having a baby. I wanted to give her a gift for her daughter. I thought about it and then procrastinated. I felt horrible that I never did but months later thought she may not have been able to accept it and it may have been really weird - or not- maybe I would under the circumstances again.
3) so far 3 different spaces but currently 2 chairs and her desk chair. Desk , side table and a patterned red and white rug. I can't keep eye contact after the first couple of minutes but I either look at/talk to the rug or focus on the Trees outside the 2 windows. Overall comfortable.
4) no to sitting on floor - Gee I would love to but that feels wrong. I follow the rules too much.

 

[jaccat]

1. No. Can't even imagine that.
2. I've never given her anything, but she gave me plants for my garden when it was landscaped last year (from her garden).
3. Cosy, a big desk where she sits, with a bookcase behind it. Two other chairs in the corners. I sit in the one beside the desk, by the window. There's a picture opposite where I sit, but even after 3 years I couldn't tell you what it's of. Not sure I could even describe the pattern on the rug and I spend most of my time staring at it.
4. No. That would make me feel really vulnerable.

 

[Lamename01234]

1. No- I look at there private page when she is out of town, where I can see a few photos. Sometimes it helps to see her when we have breaks.
2. Yes- I am a beekeeper and a few times when I have harvested honey I have brought her a jar. Nothing bought don't think she would accept anything on monetary value.
3. Loveseat or chair. Kind of small. Some art work I find distracting. Bookshelf full of books. nick knacks. Often times I wish I could redecorate her office. Had a couples therapist once with the nicest office.
4. No never have done that.