A Known Trigger Of Mine Downstairs, And I've Locked Myself In Another Room

[snappy_turtle]

A known trigger of mine is downstairs, and just hearing her footsteps puts me on edge. I went from being completely complacent and happy to furrow-browed and frightened. I need to go downstairs to get the laundry from the dryer, and to start cooking dinner (since I haven't eaten all day), but I can't seem to make myself move knowing she's downstairs. So I've locked myself in my boyfriend's room hoping she'll go away, however long that takes.

I need help. Any advice as to what to do if she doesn't leave soon? She lives here, so telling her she's not welcome is not an option, yet her very presence disturbs my sanity and level-headedness.

Advise me, please.

 

[Jen93]

Call your boyfriend, ask him to help short-term- for tonight. Ground yourself- remind yourself you're safe- and next time you see your therapist (if you have one) I suggest bringing this up with her. I have the same problem-connecting others to trauma. We need to work on rewiring- reminding ourselves that whoever that person is is not going to hurt us, they're not the person who hurt us before, or you're in different circumstances (older, more mature, have support, etc.)

It's tough, but working through it is the best option. I can't believe I'm the one saying it- because I'd probably be hiding behind that locked door with you, but we have to remember that hiding doesn't solve anything. Unfortunately.

 

[WillyKat]

It's soooo frustrating keeping it all together to respond the way we'd like to respond. Hope everything worked out for you today.