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Boo-Damphir
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You guys are terrific parents!!
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more often than once my husband left the big bed to sleep on their twin bed...oh well, more room for the kids and I!
Wow! This is great Boo. I relate, really glad I found this, and enjoyed so much reading it.Thank you for staying with me, even though many times I know you felt helpless. I appreciate having you in my life - it truly means a lot.
There are a few suggestions I would like to make.
Think of me as a cup of tea filled to the brim. One more drop and I'll overflow.
When we are together, I don't need you to entertain me or fill me in on the latest gossip and drama. My cup is too full.
It's ok to ask me "What's wrong?" but please ask just once. More than that and you will get the standard answer - "nothing" or "everything." Then I will begin to dwell on what IS wrong with me, why am I not right? My cup is too full.
Try not to be alarmed by my silence. I can go days without speaking. My cup is too full of images, noises, stimuli; silence keeps it from overflowing.
Are you afraid I'll commit suicide? So am I, let's talk about it. Yes I have a plan, all my life I've had a plan. But the more I talk about it to others, the easier it is to remain safe.
Bring me Presence not Presents. I would like you to sit still by my side, perhaps our shoulders touching or your hand on mine. Enjoy the silence with me, become comfortable with it.
Bring me Presence. Instead of "What's wrong?" try, "What bothers you most?" or "How does this rainy day make you feel?" It may take several moments for me to formulate my thoughts into words, so please be patient. As I reply, just let me ramble for my cup is too full, but it is now beginning to empty. So you see, your Presence is a gift.
As my cup empties I'll be better able to begin filling it with tools to help me through the bad times and I'll be better able to give you the gift of my Presence as well.
All My Love,
~Boo-Damphir
Bring me Presence. Instead of "What's wrong?" try, "What bothers you most?" or "How does this rainy day make you feel?" It may take several moments for me to formulate my thoughts into words, so please be patient. As I reply, just let me ramble for my cup is too full, but it is now beginning to empty. So you see, your Presence is a gift.