@Redbull Kush
If you are going to publicallly share your spouses confided personal information to stranger to be truthful you need to be truthful with yourself and the whole situation. As your wife I went back to work full time when you retired so you wouldn't have to work so that you could take a few months break and ease into going to school and watching our some full time. With that dramatic role switch you took on responsibilities in our home such as having dishes done so your wife could come home and cook the family dinner after working all day. Everyday, the moment I get home I go straight to our kitchen and cook, if dishes aren't done, which there is no excuse why they shouldn't be done since you've been home all day long I get upset which is justified. You then take things to a new level with your fowel mouth and abuse verbal threats throughtout the evening in front of our child. Telling your wife that you want to bash her skull in, knock her teeth out, that if you could get away with knocking me out and not going to jail you would do it. Or telling our son that his mom his a bitch, crazy, shit bag, bad mother to his face. There is not justification that you can use that makes that verbal abuse alright. I'm not a mind reader and you have never blatantly said what your triggers are, I'm supposed to read your mind. Since we got married 4 years ago I was your only family that went to all 3 of your surgeries and every doctors appointment so I could learn how to better support and help you with your shortcomings. Hense why I went back to work so you could ease into the civilian life. I not only work full time but also just finished doing a full load of college thru the summer which had me at work by 4am to do homework then work at 7am til I got off between 4-6 to get home to dirty dishes so I couldn't cook. Yes I have told you that I will use your PTSD against you, but only after you verbally abused and threatened me in front of our child.
Yes I cared for my sick mother, as I did for you, but the only thing I control is our bills because I'm a financial genius, myself and my work. You have it programmed in your head that I enjoy pudding you off or that I'm out to get you when I have been the only person standing beside you when your family neglected your needs.
As I told you, I'm more than happy to go to counseling, but I do not agree with you the throwing my childhood laundry out to strangers.
All the people reading this, has any of you ever had a spouse work themselves to the ground so you didn't have to work, so you could rediscover yourself? I kill myself in stress and hold the load in our family stress so my husband can go to school and spend time with our son. I wish I could spend 8 hours a day with our child, but I have the role of working and providing so my son and husband can live a comfortable life. If that makes me some monster than please tell me because I'm a very sick lost individual then.
I have no motive to manipulate my life long companion, it's about as dumb as shooting yourself in the foot so the quicker my husband realizes his own part in how things escalate we will never have resolution. To add to the works I'm newly 6 week pregnant with out second child so I will be working through my entire pregnancy as well to support my family so I can provide healthcare for now the 4 of us.
