A New Path - How can I start 2026 and the 48th of my life with a completely fresh slate and new hope?

[user56652]

I'll let you know. In the meantime if I can help on here I will.

 

[user56652]

Had to reset the appointment

 

[user56652]

New appointment in 13 days. The old one was on my parents wedding anniversary.

 

[user56652]

Feeling p*ssed off today. Things can't go on like this. Need to start making changes.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

I think you and I are inn the same boat in many ways. I have been trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I did some CBT on always seeing things in the worst light. It really helped, at least I realize I am doing it and I try to steer my way back to a more rational path.

 

[user56652]

I think you and I are inn the same boat in many ways. I have been trying to figure out what I want to do with my life. I did some CBT on always seeing things in the worst light. It really helped, at least I realize I am doing it and I try to steer my way back to a more rational path.

I understand your perspective on the worst light but I fear that door closed on me a long time ago. For me the worst things have happened and I slowly have been increasingly convinced that more horrors are coming down the line unless I act. And the way I'm thinking right now is to drop any niceties.

 

[user56652]

Quick question.Does anyone feel they may have to walk out on their families over Christmas? I'm asking because I think things are heading that way?

 

[Lost in the Woods]

I have gone completely no contact with my family. It is painful during the holidays so I am planning things with friends. I was in Africa over the thanksgiving holiday. I will be in California with my girlfriend for Christmas and new years. It is painful but less painful than dealing with them. It is what it is.

 

[gorgonzola]

Quick question.Does anyone feel they may have to walk out on their families over Christmas? I'm asking because I think things are heading that way?

My immediate family are all in the 4-digit number of miles away, so either we don't do Christmas at all or have a few months' notice of Christmas (booking flights and whatnot). Also relatives' allergies to the cold (even if they get to stay inside) mean that there's no way they're going to want to come here, even for a nigh-guaranteed White Christmas. On the flip side, when I'm visiting that means there's no walking out.

This year I only have to survive a bit of Zoom calling, phew.

 

[Sideways]

Does anyone feel they may have to walk out on their families over Christmas?

Assuming that I will need to. I’ve agreed to lunch, but I plan to walk away the minute I’ve had enough.

That has been the way I’ve handled family interactions for some time now, and I’m getting better at leaving in a way that I feel proud of the way I’ve handled myself, and looked after myself.

I can’t do much about the fact that my dad is a sh!t. But I can manage the way I behave, and the way I treat myself. Given I’m not ready to cut contact with him entirely, being able to walk away when I need to, before I get too distressed, has been incredibly important for my relationship with myself, and the standard I have for the way people treat me.

 

[user56652]

Assuming that I will need to. I’ve agreed to lunch, but I plan to walk away the minute I’ve had enough.

That has been the way I’ve handled family interactions for some time now, and I’m getting better at leaving in a way that I feel proud of the way I’ve handled myself, and looked after myself.

I can’t do much about the fact that my dad is a sh!t. But I can manage the way I behave, and the way I treat myself. Given I’m not ready to cut contact with him entirely, being able to walk away when I need to, before I get too distressed, has been incredibly important for my relationship with myself, and the standard I have for the way people treat me.

Thank you all for your replies. I'm not going to go into detail but last year disgusted me and I had wished I'd walked then, this time I've decided that if the c*nt starts I'll walk.