I don't appreciate being told that I'm "not listening". I know he needs space, I'm not stupid. I already posted in response to this stuff, but I would just like to add that I'm trying to look after my own mental health as well, and I feel going to counseling together will leave ME better equipped to handle the situation, as well as the reasons I've already given.
As hard as I try, I can't always cater to every need that my (now ex) boyfriend has. I do give him the space as much as possible, but when it comes to my sanity, yes I'll ask him to go to counseling (to which he replied "yes"), and when it comes to my stuff, yes I will try to get something if I need it. I had planned on just getting my stuff at a later date, but something came up where I needed my jacket. I do regret trying to get a hold of him so much for it, but it's disrespectful on HIS part to not let me have it. After the initial looking for my jacket, I was just worried. I should have known he was fine, but I can't assume that either. I also regret giving him the rose, as clearly it was not the right choice, which I did not know at that time. Don't be so quick to place all of the blame on me. Me contacting him (aside from the rose), was completely legit and justified. Also, as a side note, I did not plan to visit with the rose, but HE invited me in, as you seem to forget. I wasn't going to stay, and I made sure to ask if he was okay with it when he did tell me to come in.
I'm not going to contact him anymore until I see him Thursday, when hopefully we can clear up a few things. After that, it will be at his discretion when we communicate, and hopefully things will be cleared up enough that we can still maintain communication. I know I've screwed up a lot, but being so new to this, I'm bound to make mistakes, especially since my mental state is not at it's best, hence why I got my own counselor in the first place.
