A Really Stupid Thing I Did

[Juha]

Seeking attention is not always 100% bad. Sometimes attention seeking is very bad, but in your case, I don't think it was at all.

You were raped. That was a problem that needed attention. You needed attention. You needed help. You cried out for it. You have nothing to be ashamed of for what you did. It was a reasonable response to what you have been through. The people who did wrong are the rapist and the teacher who didn't believe you. Not you. What you did was a brave way to reach out for help and to try and make sense of what had happened.

I have struggled with feeling like something I did about being sexually assaulted as being attention seeking. My therapist told me what I am telling you.

 

[Befa]

I read some of replies on the thread.

Yes, I am quite the same, can be quite emphatic toward others while for myself, I feel guilty, attention seeking and faulty if I ask for help with anything, I'm afraid of being shoved up in the front and called out as 'the one who couldn't do it himself' so I never ask for help wuth anything :cry:

The school shoved all that happened under he carpet, because the school didn't want to get in trouble, I mainly hate the school system of this country, it's awful :( well, stopping post as I'm self triggering...

 

[Imen]

I was not believed. There have been others.

There were many times that I wasn't believed either and it does additional damage to the survivor.

If you look through threads on denial and minimization you will find a lot of threads from others here struggling with similar issues.

 

[Wilo]

We belive you, Ehip. You deserve all of our attention and yet you aren't asking for it, we're readily supplying it.

You, also, deserve your own comfort, happiness, and peace of mind as much as the next person.