A Simple Question "are You Okay?" But No Simple Answer-

[lostforgottensoul]

All work with childhood abuse is on hold till I get through the treatment/surgery stuff.

I think thats a good idea. First off this is a huge thing so we needing to be dealing with this as well as we can and also, no need to put more mental pressure on you when you should be healing, you know?

I am not sure how I feel.

Thats fully understandable. Im not sure anyone fully knows how they feel about cancer and going through treatment, most especially alone. Try not to worry about how you feel. Let it sit and it will come and if it doesnt it will come after, no big you know?

When big things happen, many of us shut down. I am about the big things in my life. Dont force it.

 

[Snowflake]

I think thats a good idea. First off this is a huge thing so we needing to be dealing with t...

I definitely shut down.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Snowflake I think that you have a very smart T. Putting everything on hold, while you deal with the cancer and all of the shit that's associated with that is the best way to go for now. I think you are in good hands with your T....

Hang in there. I know I keep repeating that phrase, but you need too..... or at least try.:confused:

 

[aut555]

Growing up it was not OK to be sick or hurt. In fact I was usually punished severely -(locked in clos...

So sorry to hear of this. Life can really shove piles of dung our way. Can you find the strength to keep moving? Because we all need you here and you are part of the forum at ptsd. I want to give you a free pass on avoiding all of life's horrible death defying rides, this pass just takes you around the Ferris wheel. But sadly l am still waiting for that same pass. But stay focused, you will kick cancer in the butt. We all are here for you and sending the biggest basket of compassion, and remove all doors off of those skanky closets. I tend to want to hide in closets from the abuse on the other side. I am in a different trauma boat. Lol

 

[Snowflake]

Frustrated - I don't need additional surgery to take more tissue, per radiologist, if I don't want it however it will increase my days of radiation about two weeks. And I might need a boost of radiation. The surgeon recommends taking more tissue. I am at minimum of clean margin.

They didn't fill out form of fmla -intermittent time off because of I haven't started treatment yet.

As for therapy-I can't sleep and the health issue is bringing up a lot -depression. I am exhausted. Mentally and physically

 

[aut555]

Keep plugging along, things will improve, but it just means putting one foot in front of the other, and this too will pass.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Snowflake I'm no dr, but I would opt for additional surgery if it were me. I would want to make sure they got clean margins, not just minimum margins......

The radiation will be another issue all together. You will have to be nude from the waist up, and radiation treatments usually are every week day, plus I believe in Saturday too. You only get Sundays off. At least that's how it's done here.

Radiation treatments last only a few seconds, it's the prep they do so it will be about 1/2 hour from start to finish.

There is a bra in development right now, that someone is trying to make, that will allow a more humane radiation for women. Right now though, you are nude from the waist up. You can't even wear a shirt because the cloth absorbs the radiation.

Is there a possibility that someone can prescribe you some sleep meds???? You early need to eat healthy right now and get some sleep. The healthier your mind and body is, the easier your body will heal and it just helps the whole process. I'm so sorry that you're going through this shit........

 

[lostforgottensoul]

They didn't fill out form of fmla -intermittent time off because of I haven't started treatment yet.

Ummm, it needs to be filled out and faxed BEFORE you need it because it needs to be approved BEFORE the treatment so its there approved first day of treatment. Mine, for GAD, takes a few weeks to be approved. Seriously? Dumbass Dr not knowing how FMLA works apparently!

I hate that Drs dont like to fill out FMLA paperwork and dont get it! Its a federal right! Ugh! Im sorry!

 

[Snowflake]

Ummm, it needs to be filled out and faxed BEFORE you need it because it needs to be approved...

It frustrates me-but my surgeon filled it out-now waiting.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Oh, @Snowflake, thats great that one of them did!

 

[8888]

So sorry to hear this. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Your health matters.