Aack... What Do I Do?

[Leighlee87]

Omg, I've run this possible scenario over in my head a thousand times over, and have always thought that if my abuser shows up, I'm packing up and moving as far away as I can feasibly get. My husband has reacted to with anger, saying that I can't keep letting him win and that I need to learn to stand up to him. I can't remember the last time I was so angry over the words that came out of him mouth. I brought it up with my therapist, and she kinda sided with my husband that I can't let him control me like that. But idk, I can't trust my abuser not to really hurt my kids or myself. I do know I couldn't stay. I wouldn't be okay, and couldn't deal with what it would do to me or my PTSD symptoms.

So I vote with everyone else here, and say move if it's feasible. But be prepared that others might not agree with you.

 

[Gs172003]

I'm not actually concerned for my safety. It's more the invasion of my space. If I don't interact...

Um....who cares??

They aren't the ones that dealt with this fool. Who cares what they think.

 

[sun seeker]

@Zoogal, I can understand your opinion from the perspective of what I've shared. There are things I am deliberately not posting about. It does matter, but I can see why you wouldn't see that from the information I gave. I may be overcautious, but for now, I feel I need to be.

 

[sun seeker]

Have you discussed this in session?

Haven't had the chance yet, but I'm sure we will.

In fact I've had nightmares exactly about that.

:( Yes, actually I have, too.

So I vote with everyone else here, and say move if it's feasible.

It's not really feasible financially and logistically. I think I need to stand my ground and... not sure how to finish that sentence actually. Learn I am stronger than them? Something like that. But it's not easy, as you can imagine. (I should add that my situation is quite different from yours; in your situation I agree, I would find some way to leave.)