Alone.

[AdamAnt]

I do hope that you realize as was pointed out above, that the campus police would rather help you than anything else in their job description. Helping you and people like you is the reason there are campus police. If I were a campus cop and had all those boring hours to fill I would welcome nothing more than to think that I had somehow made a fearful student feel more secure....

 

[Ga5bby]

A friend came by last night. Around 12:30. That helped a little. He is retired from the national guard and is going to teach me some self defense. This guy is an idiot. But, so am I for letting him in the first time. Found out he is in student government. Great. That's just gonna make this harder. :/

 

[AdamAnt]

Found out he is in student government. Great. That's just gonna make this harder. :/

I think that will make it easier actually....he is held to a higher standard of conduct.

 

[Jawn]

He also sounds like the type that when confronted by security will say something stupid that shows his guilt.

 

[Iam]

Being in student government won't have any effect Ga5bby. If anything it probably shows what a control freak on a power trip he is. I would almost bet that there have been other complaints against this guy, but if not there should be. You not only will be protecting yourself but other women on campus too. I understand that you are scared, god who wouldn't be. Perhaps you can call campus security and have them come to your dorm? That way you will feel safe and if the jerk is watching, it'll scare the hell out of him.

Please keep yourself safe Ga5bby. One additional benefit to turning him in.....you will have stood up for yourself and that will be a huge confidence builder!

 

[Ga5bby]

So, I spent last night on my bathroom floor. With my weighted blanket and lots of pillows. I tried to be in my bed. I just felt so vulnerable. I didn't go report it today. Mentally, it's too much for me. I want to. I really do. I just feel like something is keeping from doing it.

 

[Tiger Kitten]

Ga5bby,
I totally understand the "something keeping you from doing it." I've dealt with that "something keeping you from doing it" thing for many many years. I finally got up the nerve to call the police the last time something similar happened.

The police were nice to me. They sent patrols past my house. The guy didn't come back. I was no longer scared.

In the past, I would have just kept hiding wishing the person would go away. That doesn't always work. They don't always get tired or move on to the next person. Sometimes you get hurt. Save yourself some dreck and just make the phone call. The anxiety of living in fear far outweighs the momentary anxiety of making a phone call and talking to people. If you really cannot do it, call a friend and tell them what's going on. Maybe the retired national guard person? Have them make the call and stay with you to make the report. Doing nothing is not the best way to help yourself at all. I speak from experience.

Tiger

 

[Ga5bby]

My best friends mom is in town tomorrow for work. I will be spending a lot of time with her. Hoping she has some time to come with me to report this. :/ He hasn't been by tonight. But I didn't get home until after 9pm. So he very well could have been here during the 8 hours I wasn't today....

 

[anni]

That's a really, really good idea, and will no doubt be more than happy to go with you. I know she'll be a quite solid presence with you for this so great timing for the trip to your town.

 

[Lightseeker]

You really need to report this to Campus Security AND the police. Do you have a cell phone? Keep it with you. Bring your dorm phone into the bathroom with you so you can dial 911 the next time he bangs on your door. I know you are scared. My best friend is an ex-cop and campus security. I can tell you she would much rather you call and be safe than be hurt in any way. Please do the report. Does your RA have a phone number? Call them and ask them to go with you to Campus Security. They are there to help you when you need it. They can also keep an eye out and call for you if they notice anything. Please keep yourself safe and secure. Not huddling in fear. That is not safe. And this scumbag does not have the right to chase you out of your bed. Sleeping on the bathroom floor can not be conducive to studying. Keep strong and safe.
lightseeker