Am i the one overreacting?

[Phuckmylyfe82]

Am I being unreasonable? Earlier this year I made a new year's goal to be able to go outside. So, I asked my boyfriend if he could make a key to the house and he told me no. And then he kept telling me to wait, and then one day he told me he is afraid that I would get lost. But then he complains that I don't go out. But then we go on vacation and at first I tell him that we all can go down to the pool as a family and I would only stay doenstairs for like 15, 20 minutes... you know, for a few minutes.... So then he said to me, how are you going to get back into the room? And then he said unless our oldest goes back upstairs with me, then that would be the only way he could see me doing it like that. But then after that, he gets upset because he wanted to stay upstairs while I go by myself downstairs with the kids..... But again, I am not used to being by myself outside yet and I have to ease into it... and I don't know... it feels like he is not willing to work with me so I could get better, yet everyone he meets here in the mountains, he complains about me not going outside the room... he acts like it's such a burden that I seem withdrawn towards him and life altogether, i have been preoccupied with memories of my traumas now. So, am I overreacting for feeling like he is not trying to meet me half way?? He keeps telling me it's like I have given up. He keeps mentioning bringing strangers into the home to help but that would be very triggering for me and he doesn't wanna hear it..... Am I overreacting???

 

[littleoc]

From what you've said, I don't think you're overreacting. I think someone is scared about your trying to reach your goals -- maybe afraid you'll get hurt. Maybe also feeling like he needs to protect you, but spending so much energy on it that it's stressing him out.

He might need a small lesson in letting go a little. He does need to realize that you're your own person.

Maybe you should bring him to a therapy session? So you can both talk and see what's going on here?

I'd be frustrated too. This is a bit confusing and not very rewarding.

 

[Phuckmylyfe82]

From what you've said, I don't think you're overreacting. I think someone is scared about your trying...

Thank you for your advice. I have invited him so many times but he always declines.

 

[EveHarrington]

I’d say ok, I’ll leave the door unlocked and all your stuff will be stolen.