Analyzing Dreams and Uncovering the Subconscious Mind : Analyzing Dreams and Uncovering the Subconsc

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Yes, I agree some religions are very critical and cause such repression that it has ruined some people's lives, while it has saved other people's lives. Interesting how it works for some people and against others.

I battled with this for awhile and then decided that religion isn't want defines me. I believe in God and I'm very spiritual, but not religious. I do go to church on occasion and I go because "I want to" not because society or that religion demands that I go.

I still think there is more in that dream but I'm not feeling very well at the moment to where I can put into the correct words.

The best I can say is there needs to be some type of acceptance with your mother's choice so you can move forward. I guess she is making her problem yours by imposing her beliefs on you. You can tell her, which I feel you want to do. But, the fear of being disowned is keeping you stuck. When you have a disturbing dream it usually means that you should do something about it, or it will come up again.

Take care
Tammy

 

[spiritofnow]

Seeking Nirvana,
Hope you feel better soon lovely you!

Spirit x

 

[Cecilia]

Here is another one. Sorry, my brain is stuck on my mother's church; I'm really not sure why.

I was visiting my mother for Thanksgiving and I had a clear crystal religious statue, but not one that I recognized. My mother told me to take that statue to her church because they were decorating for Thanksgiving. I went to the church at a time nobody was there and set the statue on a shelf.

I returned to mother’s house and my sister had arrived wanting to see the statue. She told me to go get it; but at this time people had started to gather at the church so I had to dress for church to enter the building. I put on a dress and then got really stressed out over my hose having a run and I was frantic (In real life, I never wear hose). Finally I decided I could just wear the dress without hose and quietly go through the crowd and retrieve the statue; which I did.

When I picked up the statue I saw a small ding in the crystal. I ran my finger over the ding and the whole statue crumbled to pieces in my hand. I looked up and my mother was standing there. I became very upset and threw the shattered glass on the floor. Mother said, “Don’t worry about it. Just buy another one.” I told her, “I can’t. This was very special.” Then I screamed very loudly, “THIS CHURCH HAS DESTROYED EVERYTHING I EVER HAD! I WILL NEVER COME HERE AGAIN!” Then my mother said where are you going to go? All the others are just as bad if not worse.

Throughout this dream I kept running into a beautiful little dark-haired girl probably 4 or 5 years old who was crying saying she could not find her mother. Nobody seemed to notice the little girl wondering and crying. Then I started crying with the little girl screaming for her mother. Then I woke up.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi Cecila,

I believe in a nutshell the reason why you are dreaming about this is because you feel it ruined your life in some way. I made a comment on your last dream that when you have a disturbing dream like that it will probably show up again unless you do something about it.

I’m going to address the child at the end of the dream. She is a representation of you at that age. When you were a child you didn’t feel connected to your mother, that’s why in the dream at that age you feel lost from her. Now that you have grown up you still feel that disconnectedness and have turned away from her even more because of her religious beliefs, causing further detached feelings (and it hurts).

The crystal statue is symbolic for how you feel about yourself. You feel clarity and strength in your own belief system. But your mother is telling you to take yourself/statue to her church, which you do in the dream meaning you did in the past.

Getting dressed would be symbolic for your identity and personality. You feel you have to ‘dress up’ or put your best foot forward when attending her church or even being in her presence. You even try to wear panty hose (adding something to yourself that you dislike) in order to appear to be a wholesome person. When the panty hose get a run, you are realizing that this is not who you are and you don’t want to pretend any longer (come clean to your mother about the religious difference)

When you retrieve the statue/yourself you find that her religion or church has caused a flaw in you. When you try to fix this flaw it shatters into pieces. You realize that everything that was taught to you since you were a child was not who you are, or want to be, and this destroys what you thought was your inner truth. You feel your mother is dishonoring your soul/spirit by telling you to buy another one. But you know that your soul/spirit can’t be replaced. However, it can be repaired unlike how your feeling with regards to your mother saying it will be just as bad no matter where you go. This is flawed thinking and is not true. You can find your own truth and repair the damage you feel was done to you.

You’re blaming this all on the religion, but all you have to do is tell your mother how you feel and let the chips fall where they may. I believe this goes deeper than religion but you will have to figure this out. You already have cut off contact with her. So if you tell her that you have switched religions, and that her religion has ruined your life, you might get a different response than what you expect.

Whatever the response is, at least you got it off of your chest and the dreams will most likely disappear. This issue with your mother is weighing on you and it will come up again and again until you do something about it. IMHO

Take care
Tammy

 

[Cecilia]

Thanks Tammy:

I have a lot of emotions tied into that particular church building that is in my dreams. I went there for 22 years, my mom still goes there, the guy that raped me went to that church and his family still does.

My family ws so wrapped up in church almost every memory involves it.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

OK, I see why you feel it ruined your life. The guy who violated you goes there and I don't blame you. I would tell my mom if she didn't understand my reasoning for switching religions, then she has some serious issues.

Does your mother know this man violated you? I would tell her. Why do your siblings feel your mom needs protected? She needs to protect you, especially when you were a child.

I hope you can work through this. I'm sorry for assuming that confronting your mom would make the dreams stop. I thought there was a deeper issue, but had no clue it was about your trauma. Very sorry!

When ever you have a dream about that church you should submit it here and I will help you work through the pain.

Take care
Tammy

 

[Cecilia]

Of course you did not know; I did not tell you. I hate relating stuff to my trauma. My mom is protected now because she is 82 years old. She had me late in life. I did not tell my parents of the abuse (my dad died at the age of 88). I did tell them that he tried to run me down with his jeep. I had witnesses, but they just told me that whatever I was doing was bringing negative attention to the family and that if I could not behave properly in public, then I should not be in public. They were never told more because I could not bare the thought of being blamed. Everything had to appear perfect in our family; even if it was a lie. My dad was a church leader and I was supposed to be the model daughter.

Thanks Tammy

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I'm sorry to hear that. I can only imagine how tough it would have to be to pretend to be perfect all the time for your parents.

In the church I attend the pastor's daughter got pregnant at age 16 and he went public with it, and shamed her. I felt so sorry for that girl because she made a mistake, that millions of girls make a day, but had to carry that burden with her knowing her parents are ashamed of her, and then have to face the people in the church.

The school my son attended was a Christian school associated with the church and she was suspended until she had the baby. I've seen her since she had the baby but I don't know what came of it. I hope they let her keep it if that is what she wanted to do. They were imposing her to give it up for adoption.

What a mess! I'm sure she will grow up and move away from the church like you did. I have to say I don't blame either one of you.

Anyway take care
Tammy

 

[Grama-Herc]

Had a dream WOW is it a doozie. Ready

I had company and discoverd that there was a bee swarm behind 1 of my wall hangings. So with the help of my company I took it off the wall and tossed it out the door. Sad because it was my favorite--in the dream--I don't own anything like it. Wish I could remember what it look like.

When I opened the door to toss out the bees there was an old lady, possibly a neighbor, who had just abandoned 23 brown/white persian cats on my patio. I yelled at her and she said if I found no where for them to go just let them go loose. I freaked out and started screaming at her, but she just walked off.

I started going door to door in the complex looking for homes for these cats when I discovered that the complex was holding a secret yard sale. I was not to be told about it. I am always in charge of the sale in real life.

I next went to my old job to find homes for the persians and it had morfed into this loud, crowded, gaudy, gigantic mall(I use to work in a small hospital)..I wore myself out just trying to find anyone I knew in the giant crowd .

I ended up waking up in a posh elegant hotel room in the morning, but it was very dirty, unkept. I was getting dressed when the maid came in and asked if I like the room condition when I check in? I unloaded on her about how filthy it was and that the wet toothbrush and half used tube of tooth paste were completely disgusting.

End of dream, That I can remember.

Please please tell me what this one indicates? I am planning to begin sheltering new born orphan kittens again! Is this a sign Good or Bad? Helppppppppppp!

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

This sounds like a trade off. You know that you will have to give up some of your freedom and care for the cats. Your worried that you may get fed up with cleaning up after them, and have a hard time finding homes for them (the lady abandoning them). You feel like they will take over your life = they will be in charge, not you.

Bees can represent pests, or working like a busy bee. The secret that you are left out of is that you really don't feel up to this responsibility because of your illness (hospital) and it will cause you to feel overwhelmed and crowded (mall)

Your having mixed emotions over this (elegant~dirty) You feel your identity lies in helping animals. Your also having inner conflict too, and it appears you opened your mouth while only having half (tooth brush and paste) of the commitment to doing this. (The cart before the horse theory).

This is just worry based on the pros and cons on having such a commitment. The dream really isn't saying whether you should do it or not. If I had to guess, I would say no your not up for it, based on the secret sale you were not aware of. If you having trouble deciding if this is the right thing to do just meditate with the thought of whats in your best interest and it will come to you.

Good Luck
Tammy

 

[Grama-Herc]

Well, the dream was right on. I have however, already gone and done it! ! Went today and pick up 2 orphan kittens about 3 weeks old. They were so hungry and dirty. But now they are clean, warm and have full tummies and I feel fantastic.

I've needed this for a long time. Just could not make up my mind. There was some indecision. but when I saw my mom snuggling the clean babies and enjoying herself so much, I knew I did the right thing. Again, thanks

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I'm glad to see you do something so selfless. I think you did the right thing based on how happy you are. But if it gets overwhelming just take a break until your up for it again.

Take care