Analyzing Dreams and Uncovering the Subconscious Mind : Analyzing Dreams and Uncovering the Subconsc

[midi]

Hey Tammy,

I'm sorry I didn't respond - this group completely slipped my mind. I was around 5 when those rapes happened. The guy did threaten to break my arm if I told anyone other than my mother (who was in on it).

Hey Cookie, your dream made me wonder if you've ever miscarried/aborted in the past. I have gone through both and another woman I know has aborted and we both dream of babies that aren't killed, but abandoned or neglected. My friend believed these babies are those that didn't make it.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi Cathy, the dream looks like you are trying to build up your courage to see the truth. You are trying to open up to him about your feelings. Do you feel that you are a burden or create extra responsibilities for him?

The white coat and hat speaks of the innocent child like need for protection from your thinking mind (intrusive thoughts). Maybe your husband helps you with your issues and you feel as if this is causing him to feel some of your pain and you don't want to add that burden onto him?

As you and your husband see eye to eye in order to talk about your issues, the gun appears, which causes you fear and to think that you are "holding him up". Like robbery. You may feel you're robbing him of a different or normal life if you tell him the things that you need help with.

You've neglected this burden your carrying around with you for so long that dust has settled in. Now that you are getting closer to addressing these issues with your husband you are worried. The idiom "Not see someone for dust" comes to mind here.

I think that maybe the dream is telling you that you are afraid to tell your husband how you feel or what you dream about because you don't want him to feel your pain.

Also, dust is mentioned in the book of job in the bible. Here is a link with some thoughts on dust.

http://books.google.com/books?id=N9F1hkMuN0gC&pg=PA583&lpg=PA583&dq=idiom+dust&source=web&ots=QxBwPxdnds&sig=r-pyImyiaQr_i2HTzxPIFDRrgBE&hl=en&sa=X&oi=book_result&resnum=5&ct=result

Cathy, please remember that the dream images we see are not literal. Every time you have these dreams you get so upset and you never tell me that you had a dream and then it comes true. Please try to keep in mind these dreams are metaphors for the abuse you are dealing with at the time.

Ask God to help you understand what I tell you about the metaphors. God taught me how to read dreams, so maybe he sent me here to help people overcome nightmares of abuse????? The feelings that are attached to the images is just as bad as the image. So I believe you should address the issue with your husband.

God bless you!
Tammy

 

[midi]

If anyone has an idea or insight about this dream, please comment:

I had this dream, that I was inside my Ex's head again. I had one dream like this before, such a long time ago, when we first started dating, but completely different. Anyway...

There I was, inside his head. He had picked my son up and taken him somewhere. He took care of him. When I got home, he'd taken my old military long johns and used them to clean up spilled water. I was upset because I'd just washed them.

They weren't there, so I went to look for them at his place. That's how I got inside his head--I had to look for them inside his head. I ended up in this room full of dusty furniture and knick knacks. There were several rows of furniture and they were lined up in precisely straight rows.

I went over to a bookcase and started to pick up the little statues that were made of wood and marble. Even though my Ex and son were not in this room, there was great fear whenever I picked up something. The room wanted me to put things back EXACTLY as I found them.

Then I noticed that the bookcase, on the end of the one row of furniture, was coming apart at the back. The backboard was being pushed out. The nails were loose. I tried to push the board back on the bookcase, but it wouldn't budge.

Then I woke up.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi midi, I haven't been reading dreams for several weeks because I signed out of all of my dream groups so I'm feeling a bit rusty at it. Just take what fits and toss the rest.

It looks like your trying to figure things out or what went wrong when you were with your ex. Getting inside a person's head is fun isn't it? Yep a sneak peak at what's going on and you hope he has your son's best interest at heart.

Cloths generally represent our identity in how we see ourselves. Maybe you are strict, orderly and keep things clean or would like to if you don't. Since you just washed yourself clean of old thoughts, your ex comes into your subconscious and creates emotions that create a feeling of uncertainty about your identity.

Being in his room is personal and the dusty furniture and knick-knacks speaks of issues that haven't been cleaned up or dealt with. It appears the furniture is a comfort symbol and it's all lined up in straight rows, but that is also how the military would have you stand. So are you comfortable in the position you are in? Being inside his head trying to figure him out?

While getting a glimpse of what goes on inside his head you seek knowledge (book case). The little statues of marble and wood indicate that you felt small and less real. A statue is for admiration, or a dedication to someone or something. In this case you feel small for admiring him and dedicating you life to him.

The fear to put everything back in it's proper place could indicate OCD or maybe you feel like you have to put/get your life back exactly as you found it, like it once was before you met him.

The bookshelf coming apart from the back indicates that seeking this knowledge about your ex's motives is falling out the back (can’t see what's ahead of you if your looking back, and it's in the past so your holding onto the past).

Let it fall off the shelf instead of keeping things as they are. In order to move past this issue with your ex, is to open the books read them, learn about your issues and move on. Because you’re not doing this by trying to keep the back of the bookcase from letting the books fall out. Things need to change in your psyche, instead of being kept in the same place they have always been. Stuck in the back of your mind about your past and not wanting to let go.

Take care
Tammy

 

[midi]

Tammy,

Thank you very much for putting in all the effort to dissect my dream! I really appreciate it.

What you say is spot on. Being inside his head--maybe it comes from his apprehension about me getting rid of all those things, the old, working on my issues. Whether he takes care of his own junk (dusty knick-knacks...) is his choice. The fact that it is dusty means hey, maybe he's not ready to go there yet, and he is still desperately clinging to the rigid order he placed upon the relationship.

I can't be afraid of him and that old way of thinking. It's time to take an axe to the rigid order. Let's face it, I can't even control the condition my own clothes are in!

I don't know why it matters if I'm inside his head or not.

If I dream of him again, I'm not going to be afraid. I'm going to smash the enforced symmetry and anchored thinking!

His issues are not mine--but I'm letting them chain me in the past, because of fear of letting go. Amazing how much control you can let somebody from the past have over you, if you're afraid or pining for a prickly lifesaver that no longer floats!

Again, thanks so much, Tammy, you were accurate on all counts (at least, I believe so). Sometimes it's important to have an external mind look at things, because yeah, we can get caught up in old, dusty modes of thinking.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Your welcome!

Tammy

 

[patrick]

I frequently wake up drenched in sweat, but remember a dream once or twice a year at the most, so it’s a signal event when I do. I woke up this morning remembering this dream:

I was at work, though I don’t know what exactly my job was. A group of three or four of us were preparing to stand a huge concrete arch up from where it was laying on the ground. It was a high, narrow arch, sort of like the arch at St. Louis, and was maybe eight feet wide by 50 feet high and two feet thick. It obviously weighed many tons.

A chain was wrapped around the top of the arch which we attached to the hook of a big crane, which would be used to stand the arch up in place. For some reason as the arch started to raise, we all grabbed it from underneath at the top to help the crane lift it. The top of the arch was rising from the ground while the legs were still on the ground fifty feet away. I was at the very top of the arch, and when it got to about shoulder height, it suddenly slid toward me, pushing my backwards until I ran into a concrete wall about four feet high. The arch started slowly lowering and I thought if I gave it my full effort I could keep it from coming down any further until the crane was somehow able to continue lifting it.

Before I was able to figure out that I wouldn’t be able to hold it up, I was bent back over the wall behind me and pinned between it and the arch very slowly lowering down on my chest. It was coming down slowly enough so that I could barely fell the weight increasing on my chest, but knew it was happening. At first I panicked, and frantically pushed as hard as I could to try to raise it, while the other guys did the same. Suddenly I realized that there was just no way I was going to be able to stop the gradual lowering of the arch, and knew that I would be slowly crushed, and then cut in two pieces at chest height between the arch and the wall. I knew it would be a long and agonizing death, and that there was absolutely no hope of preventing it, and finally gave up. The panic left, the weight kept increasing, and I woke up.

Curiously, when I woke up I felt calm, and was not sweating.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi Patrick sorry I didn't get to this sooner. I'm having trouble logging in and out of the forum. My computer is doing weird things lately and I can’t load Mozilla Fire Fox so please excuse the typos.

Anyway, first I wanted to ask you if you have any chest pains or feelings of heaviness in the chest area because sometimes our subconscious mind knows that something isn't functioning correctly in certain areas of our body. This is not to scare you and I don’t feel this dream indicates that but I feel a sense of obligation to at least point it out.

I had a dream about 3-4 months ago that I lost a bunch of weight and was wearing my favorite pair of jeans that haven’t fit me since I had my daughter 7 years ago. If I had saved those jeans they would fit me now, as it turns out I've lost 12 pounds. I don't understand this at all, but I've been journaling dreams for a long time and I've noticed that my subconscious will pick up on things I'm unaware of.

The dream interpretation: When most people don't remember their dreams it's important to pay attention to the ones that are remembered IMO. I go through stages where I don't recall dreams for several weeks and then when I recall one I pay attention to it and usually find something important in it.

The word crane caught my attention and I think the top of the arch is the crown of your head symbolically speaking.
http://healing.about.com/od/reiki/ss/selfreikihands_2.htm

Notice when the woman puts her hands on her head it is in the shape of an arch?

The chain speaks of restraints and it's wrapped around the top of the arch, which points toward your thinking or maybe the crown of your head (headaches or spirituality). When the top part of the arch is being lifted, but the legs are on the ground it indicates that your mind and body are not in sync with each other. In other words your mind is working with help (maybe medications), but your body has no energy. Also, your rational mind and emotional feelings are not working together and this is another sign of spirituality.

The shoulders represent burdens and responsibilities. The idiom; Feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders comes to mind here, and the top part of the head usually has to do with spirituality, but it seems there is more to it than that. There are combination of things that are weighing on you until you fall back into a place that causes you to feel stuck and unable to move forward (trapped).

Please don't confuse spirituality with religion or God because they can be separate even though they are usually used in the same context.

This is what I read about the number 4, since you stated that is the height of the wall. The symbolic meaning of number Four deals with stability and invokes the grounded nature of all things. Consider the four seasons, four directions, four elements all these amazingly powerful essences wrapped up in the nice square package of Four. Fours represent solidity, calmness, and home. A recurrence of Four in your life may signify the need to get back to your roots, center yourself, or even "plant" yourself. Fours also indicate a need for persistence and endurance. .

Bending over backwards is and idiom.
http://www.usingenglish.com/reference/idioms/bend+over+backwards.html

This could be another reason you feel trapped and weighed down. People pleasing can, and will suck the energy out of a person.

So the dream ends stating if the "people pleasing" doesn't end it will cut you in half. Being torn between taking care of others and yourself can cause a lot of heartache (chest area) if you are too emotionally involved in taking care of someone. But, your health and well being has to come first or you will be of no use to anyone when this issue gets to the point it pins you down. So you might as well stop the "people pleasing" now before it takes you down and you start disassociating or worse.

I hope this was helpful. Take what fits and toss the rest.
Tammy

 

[patrick]

Tammy,

Thank you for your time and care in interpreting this dream. I wish there was something I could do for you in exchange. Many of the things you've said here hit very close to home, and there are lots of things on which I'd like to comment. Right at this moment I'm a little overwhelmed so I'm going to process your interpretation for a little while before I say much else. It's downright spooky how much all of this fits.

Pat

 

[shiraz]

hi Tammy,

In my dream I am in a car, seated behind the driver. The driver is my father and a woman in the passenger seat next to him appears to be his wife (not my mother who he is still married to). A street kid about 10yrs of age is holding onto the side of the car as we drive along. Everyone seems to be afraid of the kid, his intention seems to be to bring harm – he is aggressive and threatening. My father tries to knock him off the car by driving erratically and by driving close to objects which would knock him off. At one point he drives directly into the oncoming traffic and then swerves away at the last minute, But the child does not let go. My father tells us that he needs to pull over so that he can deal with the child. He pulls over and yanks the child through his open window. The child falls into the arms of the woman next to him. The child is altered at this point; he is younger and much smaller and terribly afraid. The woman takes pity on him and cradles him. The child is not used to such attention and squirms from her grasp, climbing onto her back like a monkey – she is unperturbed and reaches round to bring him back into her embrace, she smiles at him and is patient with him. My father watching this, states that he has to find the child a home. We drive to a childrens home (place where orphaned and abandoned children live) and find out that 630 children are being cared for by 6 adults. The children seeing the young child in our care, begin to attack him. I stop them and explain to them that they feel anger towards him because he has our care and they would also like that same level of care. The children seem to understand. I decide to stay and work with the children to help them understand the psychology of their anger and aggression and in order to help them escape their own turmoil.

As always, I so much appreciate your time on these interpretations.

Big Hugs,
Shiraz

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Hi shiraz, it looks like your journey (car) has proved that you found your "inner child" and you are taking care of her/him. Just because it's a boy doesn't mean this child doesn't represent part of your personality. It's just the masculine aspect of yourself.

The man is an aspect of an authority figure within you that feels a little threatened by your "inner child" and the issues you had to face back then. The woman in the seat is also an aspect of you and she is not feeling like the past traumas are as troublesome as they once were. (Monkey on your back)

Your inner child has come home to you now and the next step is to find the other children within you that need to come home. Those would be the ages you were traumatized. If age 10 is the only age then you are well on your way to recovery. That is great progress!

The dream implies that you are thinking of working with children. I would explore that thought and see if it resonates with you.

Take care
Tammy

 

[shiraz]

Thanks Tammy, that was very insightful and spot on – exactly how I am feeling in terms of my progress – still some more ‘children’ to come to the fore I think – in time.

I have a request here for you to read a dream my partner had recently as he is quite perturbed by it – I hope this is ok with you??

In the dream he is in a large palace/castle – he is secretly observing a secret ceremony in which a woman (queen) is having sex with a bull. They are surrounded by powerful men wearing long robes – kind of ceremonial garb. Some men are encouraging the mating and some are just watching, some cheering on and one in particular is lining the bull up. In the dream my partner feels that he should not be witnessing this ceremony, he finds it uncomfortable and shocking – he hurries away quickly down the passages pretending that he has not seen the ceremony.