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I'm confused and worried again. Just when I thought we were making a change for the better, him going to therapy, taking meds, staying active and healthy, I see a turn for the worst. We went from spending a lot of time together ( his request) to maybe seeing each other 1 or 2 a week. My vet suffers from combat ptsd, and although I'm not new to his ptsd and symptoms, I was hoping this time around was going to be different. Earlier in the week he felt I was distant. I can't help it. My anxiety kicked it bc everything was so good to be true I was looking for the negative, which I know I shouldn't do that. I apologize and said I was going through a funk. Everything was fine, but I had this gut feeling and anxiety so I brought up my concern.
At times, I feel like this relationship is all about him and his needs even though I know he makes an effort to show he cares and takes my feels into consideration. After a few months of amazing, we have hit another rough patch. He's withdrawn and isolating. Sleeping all day, not leaving the house, missing docs appt. I wonder if he not sober anymore. I have a complete melt down in my own car without him knowing at least once a month bc I don't want to add to his stress.
Two days ago I brought up how I felt as if it's a cycle of happiness followed by uncertainty and doubt and just confusion. How in one instance I'm his support and the next instance I'm his source of anger. We are both making an effort to make this work. After the convo we had about how I was feeling, he's been short and cold. Responding to my text not immediately as usual, ignoring my call, just being cold, standoffish. I didn't say anything bad or hurtful. I expressed myself in a caring calm manner and he even responded by saying that he is here for me and that whatever I need him to do to let him know. He hasn't been this involved with some else in over 5 years bc he thought he wasn't worthy of being loved which breaks my heart bc he is an amazing man!
Any one else feel like when they are together with their sufferer everything is great, but if they go a few days without seeing them they feel like the relationship is falling apart? I mention this as well to him. He said maybe separation anxiety. And this feeling is mutual.
I'm sorry...just needed to vent bc sadly my friends do not get it. We deeply love each other and have gone thru a lot, Im wondering if counseling will help. Any suggestions? Thank you!
At times, I feel like this relationship is all about him and his needs even though I know he makes an effort to show he cares and takes my feels into consideration. After a few months of amazing, we have hit another rough patch. He's withdrawn and isolating. Sleeping all day, not leaving the house, missing docs appt. I wonder if he not sober anymore. I have a complete melt down in my own car without him knowing at least once a month bc I don't want to add to his stress.
Two days ago I brought up how I felt as if it's a cycle of happiness followed by uncertainty and doubt and just confusion. How in one instance I'm his support and the next instance I'm his source of anger. We are both making an effort to make this work. After the convo we had about how I was feeling, he's been short and cold. Responding to my text not immediately as usual, ignoring my call, just being cold, standoffish. I didn't say anything bad or hurtful. I expressed myself in a caring calm manner and he even responded by saying that he is here for me and that whatever I need him to do to let him know. He hasn't been this involved with some else in over 5 years bc he thought he wasn't worthy of being loved which breaks my heart bc he is an amazing man!
Any one else feel like when they are together with their sufferer everything is great, but if they go a few days without seeing them they feel like the relationship is falling apart? I mention this as well to him. He said maybe separation anxiety. And this feeling is mutual.
I'm sorry...just needed to vent bc sadly my friends do not get it. We deeply love each other and have gone thru a lot, Im wondering if counseling will help. Any suggestions? Thank you!
