Wow here we go...beliefs and cognition at its finest

[Susan Jane]

I had a great day yesterday, I felt so accomplished. I woke up this morning with that pit in my stomach again. That here we go again, I have to steer my way through this day, and all I wanted was to wake up enlightened....Core beliefs that keep me in the circle, I am never going to be normal, I am too damaged. I have to ask myself what that actually means, normal. Sharing myself and my anxious thoughts, makes it all, easier to accept. I heard that I shouldn't go into my head alone, as it is a dangerous neighborhood

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

You are not alone! I refer to it as “running around in my head without adult supervision.”

The rollercoaster of CPTSD/PTSD is insanely intense sometimes, which I find to be one of the more difficult parts to manage. I can be on top of the world one day and in the pits the next.

What I do know is that there’s no such thing as normal. Everyone is different and THAT’S normal Trauma changes us but we don’t have to let it define us

 

[Survivor3]

I haven't read this yet, however I'm looking forward to it.

 

[Survivor3]

Hi @Susan Jane. I'm certainly alot more stable than I used to be but i still really understand your experience of being great one day and feeling like shit the next and fighting those demons. It's tricky as hell.

I feel like that today as it happens. Slept most of the morning as I felt emotionally depleted, watched the f1 qualifying to give myself something to focus on. Brushed my teeth and now listening to music. Will try to eat some nice food later. I think the trick is to recognise and accept your mood whilst trying to be kind to yourself.

Hope your day improves.

 

[arfie]

i stole my take on the benefits of sharing from alanon. "my head is not a safe neighborhood to travel alone. there is safety in numbers. take a traveling companion whenever possible."

Core beliefs that keep me in the circle,

nerd alert. . . i'm a great admirer of the cognition theories. i believe that a significant portion of those core beliefs have cognitive links attached that equal habits which are hard to break. that belief helps me be more gentle with myself and the cognitive links i have yet to break. i suspect some of them will be with me for life as psychic burps and farts.

I am never going to be normal, I am too damaged. I have to ask myself what that actually means, normal.

if i put one foot in the oven and one foot in the freezer, statistically, i am comfortable. ~unknown

global norms are a numerical point between the extremes. the only normal i worry about is, "normal for me." being weird and damaged is normal for me. wanna make something of it? bring it on, cupcake.

 

[Susan Jane]

You are not alone! I refer to it as “running around in my head without adult supervision.”

The rollercoaster of CPTSD/PTSD is insanely intense sometimes, which I find to be one of the more difficult parts to manage. I can be on top of the world one day and in the pits the next.

What I do know is that there’s no such thing as normal. Everyone is different and THAT’S normal Trauma changes us but we don’t have to let it define us

Haha … sounds right! I like that without adult supervision. Thanks for your words…

Hi @Susan Jane. I'm certainly alot more stable than I used to be but i still really understand your experience of being great one day and feeling like shit the next and fighting those demons. It's tricky as hell.

I feel like that today as it happens. Slept most of the morning as I felt emotionally depleted, watched the f1 qualifying to give myself something to focus on. Brushed my teeth and now listening to music. Will try to eat some nice food later. I think the trick is to recognise and accept your mood whilst trying to be kind to yourself.

Hope your day improves.

True ! I am sorry you are having a challenging day as well. Maybe the ups and downs happen to us all, but our nerves are wired to alway be in tune with every change . I hope your day improved as well

i stole my take on the benefits of sharing from alanon. "my head is not a safe neighborhood to travel alone. there is safety in numbers. take a traveling companion whenever possible."

nerd alert. . . i'm a great admirer of the cognition theories. i believe that a significant portion of those core beliefs have cognitive links attached that equal habits which are hard to break. that belief helps me be more gentle with myself and the cognitive links i have yet to break. i suspect some of them will be with me for life as psychic burps and farts.

if i put one foot in the oven and one foot in the freezer, statistically, i am comfortable. ~unknown

global norms are a numerical point between the extremes. the only normal i worry about is, "normal for me." being weird and damaged is normal for me. wanna make something of it? bring it on, cupcake.

I like that… take someone with when going into the whirlwind! The cog circle is rougher than a rollercoaster, at least the coaster stops after 5 minutes. Yes Arfie norms are there to make everyone feel abnormal and it seems to work or?

 

[Friday]

Core beliefs that keep me in the circle, I am never going to be normal, I am too damaged.

Normal is how people see other people they don’t know well enough to know their fight.

Guaranteed, someone has been angry/envious of you for being “normal”. Most likely? Tens of thousands of people, hundreds of thousands of times, over the years… If you live in a decent sized town/city. Because they don’t know you. They just see you, and imagine the life you’re leading. And are angry/despairing over what they imagine your normal life to be, that they don’t have.

Instead of trying to be normal, living a normal life? Try aiming for being your best, leading an amazing life. Other people are gonna think you’re normal, living a normal life, whether you’re miserable or over the moon. f*ck normal. Shoot for the stars.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

The Mate book is pretty good.

Normal is nothing to strive for. Normal is to buy into the big lie that if you buy enough stuff you will be happy. Normal is being in debt to your eyeballs with no path out. Normal is wasting life away in front of the TV. Normal is never really living life and missing the whole thing. It is best not to wake up from that stupor if you are heavily invested in it.

On the other hand, things happened to us that propelled us across the universe from normal. We see and feel things differently. That is both good and bad. We tend to focus on the bad. A lot of our pain comes from striving to be the imaginary normal. Screw that, live your own life. Be proud of the insight you have been forced to learn through pain and struggle. Each of us have our own unique place in the universe. Much of the pain comes from trying to mold ourselves into something we are not (consumption units). Each of us needs to walk our own path. If I had enemies, I would not wish normal upon the worst of them. There is more to life than just shutting up and buying.

 

[Susan Jane]

Normal is how people see other people they don’t know well enough to know their fight.

Guaranteed, someone has been angry/envious of you for being “normal”. Most likely? Tens of thousands of people, hundreds of thousands of times, over the years… If you live in a decent sized town/city. Because they don’t know you. They just see you, and imagine the life you’re leading. And are angry/despairing over what they imagine your normal life to be, that they don’t have.

Instead of trying to be normal, living a normal life? Try aiming for being your best, leading an amazing life. Other people are gonna think you’re normal, living a normal life, whether you’re miserable or over the moon. f*ck normal. Shoot for the stars.

I am not sure if normal is even a word I like. I guess it is just something I have been conditioned to think....How can it be possible that ? Normal? Thanks Friday..

The Mate book is pretty good.

Normal is nothing to strive for. Normal is to buy into the big lie that if you buy enough stuff you will be happy. Normal is being in debt to your eyeballs with no path out. Normal is wasting life away in front of the TV. Normal is never really living life and missing the whole thing. It is best not to wake up from that stupor if you are heavily invested in it.

On the other hand, things happened to us that propelled us across the universe from normal. We see and feel things differently. That is both good and bad. We tend to focus on the bad. A lot of our pain comes from striving to be the imaginary normal. Screw that, live your own life. Be proud of the insight you have been forced to learn through pain and struggle. Each of us have our own unique place in the universe. Much of the pain comes from trying to mold ourselves into something we are not (consumption units). Each of us needs to walk our own path. If I had enemies, I would not wish normal upon the worst of them. There is more to life than just shutting up and buying.

So true, the big lie we were taught as children. I used to like my "being different", it makes me ...me. Thanks for the reminder

 

[Lost in the Woods]

Normal is the lowest common denominator, not something to strive towards unless you are just giving up on life. Our national cemeteries remind me of housing tracts. We all have a short time to live and a long time to be dead. No point in turning life into a junior death.