newbie2011
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Hi again
Huge developments - we got back together after weeks of emotional numbing, my man has been opening up about how he feels, how he wants me in his future, he appreciates all this has been hard for me (don't know if he really appreciates how hard!), how he's been struggling, is permanently tired, lost motivation to do things etc etc but he's constantly angry, he says someone just has to look at him the wrong way and he wants to fly into a rage. Thankfully he's only done this a couple of times (that he's admitted to anyway!). He's spoken to his therapists about this and says he feels like giving up therapy cause it's making his issues worse. Obviously he's not going to do this and I've explained how the emotions have to come out. At times I've even asked him what he wants to eat and he says this even makes him angry?! Thankfully he's reassured me he's like this with everyone so not to take it personally. Since starting therapy (about 3 months in total) he seems much more self aware of his behaviour, which I think is good.
It's good because he is opening up about his nightmares and feelings now whereas before I couldn't mention the word therapy! We were getting on amazingly well, then the last time we saw each other he was being arrogant and a bit immature and trying to provoke a reaction from me and I could see he was angry inside just by his comments so he eventually got told enough was enough and I wasn't putting up with it. When I asked if he felt he needed therapy as he hadn't had it for a couple of weeks he said yes and I commented (silly me!) that I agreed, I felt he needed it to which I got a sarky response saying he didn't need me to tell him that he needed it, he feels like this permanently. Queue for me to shut up oops! This week he's being a bit strange and distant again and I'm hoping he actually gets his therapy this week to vent off some of these emotions.
Must admit I'm not walking on egg shells now and if he wants to talk, I let him and if he's a bit down I've learnt not to ask him questions but if he's good then I can. Anyone else's sufferer had symptoms like this while going through therapy and if so did it last for months or did they manage to get through this phase in weeks? I know people experience things differently but as a rough guide?
Huge thanks :)
Huge developments - we got back together after weeks of emotional numbing, my man has been opening up about how he feels, how he wants me in his future, he appreciates all this has been hard for me (don't know if he really appreciates how hard!), how he's been struggling, is permanently tired, lost motivation to do things etc etc but he's constantly angry, he says someone just has to look at him the wrong way and he wants to fly into a rage. Thankfully he's only done this a couple of times (that he's admitted to anyway!). He's spoken to his therapists about this and says he feels like giving up therapy cause it's making his issues worse. Obviously he's not going to do this and I've explained how the emotions have to come out. At times I've even asked him what he wants to eat and he says this even makes him angry?! Thankfully he's reassured me he's like this with everyone so not to take it personally. Since starting therapy (about 3 months in total) he seems much more self aware of his behaviour, which I think is good.
It's good because he is opening up about his nightmares and feelings now whereas before I couldn't mention the word therapy! We were getting on amazingly well, then the last time we saw each other he was being arrogant and a bit immature and trying to provoke a reaction from me and I could see he was angry inside just by his comments so he eventually got told enough was enough and I wasn't putting up with it. When I asked if he felt he needed therapy as he hadn't had it for a couple of weeks he said yes and I commented (silly me!) that I agreed, I felt he needed it to which I got a sarky response saying he didn't need me to tell him that he needed it, he feels like this permanently. Queue for me to shut up oops! This week he's being a bit strange and distant again and I'm hoping he actually gets his therapy this week to vent off some of these emotions.
Must admit I'm not walking on egg shells now and if he wants to talk, I let him and if he's a bit down I've learnt not to ask him questions but if he's good then I can. Anyone else's sufferer had symptoms like this while going through therapy and if so did it last for months or did they manage to get through this phase in weeks? I know people experience things differently but as a rough guide?
Huge thanks :)
