Any Advice Help In Relationships

[jenLoneWolf]

I am wondering if anyone else has trouble with relationship? If so how do you deal with it? I am trying to have a healthy relationship but I have flash backs still and nightmares. I am going to court against my ex and he is looking at huge time in prison. I don't want him to go there but I don't want him. I am lost with everything. I am having fears with my new relationship and I am scared that I am pushing when I want him close. I try to explain my fears to him and how I shut down and I need time for myself. It is like he doesn't understand. How to i get what I need from him without saying the opposite I need. Any advice for me? Please:oops:

 

[Gs172003]

I keep saying the same thing over and over but...this book is helpful

 

[Bloomy]

Be conscjous about your communication - how you say things and body language. You might tell him what you need, but do you tell him in a way he can understand it? See it as an communication experience to be curios about. Like - if you say things this way what will happen? >If you say it in another way maybe something else will happen? Also be aware of your unconsciousnes communication. For me it ment that all of the sudden a bitch from somewhere inside of me would come forth and I found my self saying things that where utterly horrible to my standards. Glad I heard my self saying it so I had the chanse to reflect and change.

Best of luck.