Sufferer Anyone in a similar situation? recovering from domestic violence

[Kay N]

Hi, I'm Kay from England and suffering from PTSD after being in a violent relationship for over 20 years. I have recently been referred to a psychiatrist but hoping to chat with people that are in a similar situation who understands what this is all about. Thankyou

 

[Deleted member 34561]

Hey there Kate I'm just out of an abusive relationship after 23 years but it was abusive on both sides not just him but me too. I'm also a a Brit. Prior to my ex partner I was married to a violent man for 2 years and it was all him in that relationship. And before that I was incested in my birth family. I'd be happy to chat with you. Welcome to this website. There are some really good people here who will understand.

God bless.

Crazydiamond47

 

[Kay N]

Hi, I really appreciate your message, thankyou and good to know you are in the UK too. What are you doing to cope with your PTSD may I ask? My life is a daily struggle at the moment and I'm unable to work but I'm also very restless, I don't know what to do with myself.

 

[ladee]

Welcome ! Very happy to see you reaching out and getting a support system going for your healing. Many of us here totally understand abusive relationships... Mine never laid a hand on me, but the mental damage he did took years to heal....
But had PTSD before I ever met him... he just added to the bad self image I already had...
This place is full of wonderful caring and supportive people... when we say we understand, we really do. I hate the reason you came here, but am very happy you found us... healing together, we aren't alone....gentle hugs if accepted.

 

[Kay N]

Hi Ladee, I'm so pleased to have a reply, thank you so much. It is was it is and I am happy to find people who know what it is like and who do get it. I hope you are doing ok and finding the strength to move forward.

 

[Deleted member 34561]

Hi Kay I too am unable to work because of this horrible affliction. Life on sickness benefits sure ain't no fun eh love? Unfortunately I also developed an addiction to alcohol and also cannabis to cope with the feelings and memories and ongoing daily shit between me and my ex. I'm currently in recovery for those addictions I'm just two days sober but over two months clean of pot. I see a key worker regularly at my local drug and alcohol clinic and my GP every couple of months but it has been more often recently because I have very high blood pressure as well as COPD. I am a right old bloody crock love lol. I also take a high dose of mirtazapine an anti depressant and quetiapine a antipsychotic to try to keep me on an even keel. Doesn't always work lol. I've stopped drinking because that as well as withdrawing from the green was making me psychotic and delusional. Once my meds are working again properly I will be starting therapy probably in the next couple of months. I am currently a bundle of bloody nerves. Like bordering on agoraphobic nervous lol. But when I feel better my key worker wants me to start attending a Domestic Violence support group at the clinic among other groups she has suggested. I don't know about you but I became very isolated in the end in my abusive relationship. My key worker says that I can't heal in isolation and that I need to be around other people in real life who have survived the same thing and understand first hand what it's like. I wonder if there's anything like that available for you near where you live love? I'm near London myself mate lol. Anyway I will leave it there hope you're doing alright today girl. God bless xx

 

[Kay N]

Hi Crazy Diamond, Thank you so much for messaging me. I agree life on benefits sucks! But is a necessity right now, shit happens! I also turned to alcohol when I was with my abuser, I had to to get through the day. Now I don't have alcohol in the house and I have learnt to drink in moderation in a social environment. Well done you for seeking help with your addictions, you are doing great! Yes I was also isolated, we lived in Spain in the country so there weren't many neighbours and no family support. I came back to the UK about 8 years ago now with my two children. I was forced to do that because my ex moved another woman into our house and refused to move her out, in a way I was pleased because it gave us the opportunity to escape. We did all live together for about 3 weeks which was hell but I had to make arrangements to move country, find schools, somewhere to live etc etc.
Yes there are groups where I am, in fact I am on a waiting list for a group for women who have suffered trauma but my first assessment is in March 2018!! Hope you have a positive day xx

 

[Kay N]

Hi Crazy Diamond, Thank you so much for messaging me. I agree life on benefits sucks! But is a necessity...

Hi there, back on the forum again.. Just wondered if you have tried hypnotherapy for complex PTSD which is what I have. Done all the CBT stuff without any benefits so was thinking of giving this a try, not available on the NHS but I'm getting desperate...