General Are Most Combat Trained Ptsd Sufferers Aware Of Nasty Messages They Send After An Episode?

[Snow_angel]

Totally agree. I am always myself & way before I ever knew he had been living with this, he made me promise never to change ;) ...it doesn't hurt to educate myself more though. :)

 

[jmm214407]

Not at all. We all need a lil more education inthese types of issues. And if we ddidn't care non of us would be here trying to get a better idea of why and what's going on

 

[jmm214407]

Sorry had some spelling errors. Anyway be there for him to an extent. Don't be all over him. He needs to realize he needs to this for him before he can be good for anyone else like you

 

[Snow_angel]

No worries on spelling. I type with one finger on my phone. I thank you for sharing the insight, as his ptsd has never been this bad & I am actually more than okay at leaving him space to sort through things. You can lead a horse to water, but so true...you cannot force him to drink.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

@Snow_angel,
You sound like an incredibly enlightened supporter! You understand he needs his space... This is HUGE and something that a lot of supporters struggle with. You understand that you can't force him to do anything... Again, very important as some try to heal us, but the role of supporter is just to support, not to fix us. You want to educate yourself about PTSD. Let's just say that a lot of sufferers would be lucky to have a supporter who tries to understand PTSD.

He is very lucky to have you.

 

[Snow_angel]

....& even but for a glimpse of that beauty and fire from within him, or to just see him smile.... So worth it :) No one is perfect & we all have challenges to work through. But, you are right, so few take the time to truly educate themselves. I sincerely respect that his mind wakes up every morning being very different than mine. I have hope for him :) I am not wired to leave a soldier behind. Good nigh zzzz

 

[BeatenMan]

One other thing from the above post that I wanted to mention. Many times when I over drink, true emotions come out and the hurt comes to surface. But many times I just get hugely pissed at the world and the fact that Im this way. I have had times where Im just pissed and spew venom with my words at anything in sight. Sometimes the hatred that comes out of us isnt necessarily at a person but at this damn injury and situation. The attack comes out in us and sometime innocent bystanders are hurt. It doesnt excuse our behavior and by no means requires you to take the venom but its just a thought. He's lucky to have you snow angel.

 

[Snow_angel]

Thanks for your words. This is day 2 for me on standing my ground on my total decision to give Scorpio his space and I know how much he loves my communicative written efforts. He usually resurfaces eventually. I am not taking it personally at all and do not even feel upset about his crazy texts. Sounded like fantasy chatter & I happened to be home, when he was texting/drinking & when I would not respond to most of them, I got a dose of dark rage. It looks like some random photos of an online woman who he thinks is what he wants. It really did seem like he was pissed off at many things, frustrated that I refuse to say "how high" when he wants me to "jump". It has all to do with control. Get that. Personally, I sense he moved back in with his trigger. Untreated, he will erupt again and continue to spiral downwards. He knows I am here, how I feel, how I know what most would never know... It is best that he takes all the space needed. It is actually (for me with my psychology/criminology background) at a point where I am totally here for him, but I am processing a selective emotional numbness (if I can say this).

He's a bright man. Big heart. Emotion is his vulnerability. I really GET this now. I access the core of this. I "get" why I was purposely pushed away. His adrenal glands have the reaction to protect me, pushing me away, because he does not have full control. Normally, (prior to knowing about his duality/ptsd) I would have been sad, hurt, like many women I have read about on here. But, in understanding it more, I can only offer unconditional love, set boundaries and enjoy life- think of me too :) I usually give him a month or two & see my friend reach out. But, hell ya I would have totally preferred going to a dojo with him to sweat it out vs texting lol - have a great day TGIF