Sexual Assault Arousal And Abuse

[Deleted member 29961]

Uhm... I'm really not sure how to go about asking this, but as I am working my way through the sexual abuse I suffered, as I think about the specifics, I find that it seems to get me aroused. Jesus f*cking Christ... is this normal? has anyone else felt this way? or am I just really f*cked in the head?

 

[Flossy]

No, you're not really f#cked in the head and one day you won't use that term even in your thoughts. I used to think it all the time. Never occurs to me now to think that about myself.

It's all about the physical pathways in the brain. By pathways I mean routes of brain nerves (neurons) that are used for each activity or memory we do/have. When sexual arousal happens there is a roadway or pathway of nerves that are activated. These would eventually lead to the nerves in the genitals that cause blood flow to the area which is all a normal part of a human's physiology.

The brain and these nerves do not know how to differentiate when you are talking about abuse so the nerves are still activated.

I recently met my brother again who abused me and I felt physical arousal every time I thought of him. Freaked me out too. He makes me sick.

May I suggest you tell yourself it's just your nerve cells activating. It wont be forever. It won't stay that way. It will change I am sure.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I think @Flossy is right, I have the same problem, and read that others do too, it seems it's more common than you'd think, normal even though it's upsetting, distressing etc. Hopefully it won't be like this forever.