Article Dark Legacy Of Child Abuse Do You Think This Is True?

[Abrasky]

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I've been wondering about it. I have had problems with work/liveliness/communities since my trauma when I was 19, making me a welfare recipient, then a disability recipient.

I think maybe social problems come from a combination of things, like PTSD comes from a combination of things.

My trauma left me with a phobia of my community work and of liveliness amoung many other fears. I would work and suddenly I would be doing lively stuff, or community stuff and I would dissacociate back into being 19 and thinking about the my trauma of my life being attacked when I was 19, of the emotional blackmail and abandonment from my mum that followed, of years of violence followed by my mum's emotional blakmail and abandonment, which got so bad it reminded me of my dad abandoning me when he abandoned me emotionally when I wouldn't participate in the abuse any more when I was 9.

I would have to say the continual abandonment had more of a role in my inability to work. What happened with the abuse and abandonment made me extremely sensitive to emotional trauma and set me up a coping mechanism where I would get tangled and more and more tangled in my horror thoughts. The tangling, my psychologist says is actually what a lot of my PTSD is about. They are thoughts of trying to understand what my mother was to me (emotional blackmail) and getting more and more tangled in them in the year after I was attacked when I was 19. I became so tangled, some of these thoughts became personality states.

What do you think? Does abuse cause welfare?

 

[BloomInWinter]

Abuse is a legacy of a culture of deprivation for the many to the entitlement of a few.

If classrooms had small enough ratios & non-stressed, highly supported teachers who could know, help, and refer struggling families for food, shelter, counseling, education they needed, could get to, and afford....we'd have to pay out FAR less in jails, healthcare, police, shelters, etc.

We'd have a far healthier, more civikized society in less than 2 generations.

Abuse is enabled - and made far more likely - by the LACK of an adequate social services safety net.

Wefare is but a poor pittance paid to citizens we've all already failed...and in no way makes up for the intergenerational trauma perpetuated by a culture that deprives parents of support, makes it far more likely for unprepared or unwilling or unfit people to BE parents, then throws their children to the fate they are born into. Then villifies those children when they grow into adults lacking the toolkit for life that they were never given.

Just my .02 - I was a certified Health Education Specialist....guess this pushed that button in me....

 

[Queen Boudica]

I don't think you could ever have enough welfare to completely stop abuse and I certainly don't think that abuse causes welfare.

I do agree with BloomInWinter that if welfare and support systems were better then there would be far less abuse or it would be stopped and/or remedied at a far earlier stage.

I'm certainly reading on this forum where there are a lot of people who need therapy but cannot afford to get all they need if any at all. If those people could get enough help, that, perhaps, would help them come off welfare earlier if they are on it.

 

[Anna]

Not all people on welfare have experienced abuse. Some have just lost their jobs and need the safety net of the social security system to help them until they find work.

Abuse crosses all walks of life. Just because someone has money does not mean they are less likely to abuse. This is a stereotype. Abuse occurs in upper class and middle class families alike. None of which are on welfare, especially sexual abuse. Even some battered partners (male or female) are married to well off partners. Abuse crosses every social boundary.