As A Supporter What If I Want Out?

[Deleted member 28403]

That is really tough to deal with... Long distance relationships make everything a bit harder especially.

I'm sorry that you are in such a situation. :hug:

 

[Catching_him]

That is really tough to deal with... Long distance relationships make everything a bit harder especially...

It's really hard because when we are together he quits shaking, we laugh, we talk about everything. We are even on the phone 3-4 hours sometimes at least an hour usually. But not being there to help him or see his face, or hug him, is hard. I think that's why the phone calls are SO important.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Yea, I can agree. Even hearing someone's voice means a lot :) And text is not enough to pass on emotions much

 

[void]

Sorry, I forgot to mention that we've only been together in the same place 2 weeks before he left....

I feel so sad for you.
I would leave....not that that matters.
Don't punish yourself by staying.

 

[Catching_him]

Thank for your honesty. That is my gut feeling. I was thinking of just limiting convos little by little. Then just try to make it about how it'd be better for him...wouldn't have to worry about me. Hopefully he goes along with it. Good idea?

 

[Deleted member 28403]

I am no person to give advice on breakups...

 

[Catching_him]

I am no person to give advice on breakups...

I get it. I each day is getting easier for you... ;)

 

[Deleted member 28403]

Not really... Not really getting easier. I am trying to figure out my life

 

[BrokenWoman]

As a 3 year supporter of a marine with PTSD I think you should do him a favor by ending it. I mean ONE day? ONE day you haven't heard from him so your freaking out and ready to bail? I don't think this is the relationship for you! If he's already invested and your losing it over one day of not hearing from him then I'd just stop right there. One day is nothing! Some of us have gone weeks without hearing from our sufferers but that's just part of it.

What disturbs me is in one post you want to "end it gracefully" and the next you want to "go to a wedding with him" as his guest.

You really need to figure out what exactly you want and can handle before jerking the poor guy around who already has big enough issues!

 

[EveHarrington]

I advise waiting until he gets home to break up with him. Please don't do it from afar as it may majorly stress him since you're taking care of his dog, etc. I would be through the roof if my boyfriend dumped me while he was taking care of my dog while I was out of town.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

@EveHarrington
Yea, is sort of a scary thought

 

[Stickler]

Hun...I note that you are 45...and you need to see him and hear from him every day?

You have been together for 4 months? You're living in his house after knowing him for four months?

For * just * being together 4 months, that is wanting and expecting a lot very fast.
That's some serious getting up in his grille...I'd feel squashed.

Just asking, you don't have to answer...but do you tend to get into and out of relationships rapidly like this?
Do you often find that men you get with don't want to get as emotionally close as you want?
Do you have platonic friends?