Have you discussed what you have been through with someone from the Women's Center? If that's the hang up you have is that they are assuming your life has been normal and you are now some sort of Sorority Stepford Wife. Its time to tell them and explain that being in a sorority has given you goal and support system you never had before. Once they see their impressions of you are wrong you may be able to introduce them to other Greeks who feel the same way as you.