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Baby Pictures In The Next Week Or So I Hope!
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Ghostybear73
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She's so beautiful!!!!!
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I don't have the energy right now to explain the shit my parents have been up to over the past 48 hrs, but needless to say, shit has escalated even further.
But then I like look at my darling partner and my little sweetheart snoring away in each other's arms, and I don't feel guilty or upset or angry, its just something else on my list of things that I'm learning not to give a shit about.
But then I like look at my darling partner and my little sweetheart snoring away in each other's arms, and I don't feel guilty or upset or angry, its just something else on my list of things that I'm learning not to give a shit about.
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Madhather
What a beautiful baby girl, congratulations :)
StarChild
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My goodness what a cutie! She's a real princess!
Ghostybear73
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What an awesome picture. She's adorable!!!
amethist
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Congratulations, she is beautiful.
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rainy_daze
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Welcome to the world, baby Nikita :happy:.
Congratulations Bubs :hug:.
Congratulations Bubs :hug:.
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HëllaBubz
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My sister contacted me on sunday via text to ask if she could come over and see bubs.
Initially I dissolved into uncontrollable sobs and wouldn't read the text because I thought it would be her telling me to get lost officially.
The other half read the message, and I asked him if it was worth reading. He said that I didn't have to, but maybe later.
I didn'r want it hanging over my head, so I dried my face, waited for my breathing to settle and then read it.
She wanted to see me, as did my my mother, but if I didn't want to see my mother they would respect that.
She also informed me that my mother was in intensive counseling and is seeking a separation from my father.
Initially I said that I didn't want to see my mother, just my sister, so my sister was dropped off while I was walking the dog and she and I chatted while my mother spoke to my partner about the separation.
My other half recorded the conversation, and in the conversation she freely admitted that she hadn't listened to me, and even cited examples dating back weeks, months and years which makes me think that perhaps, just perhaps this might be genuine.
My sister, who is admittedly daddy's girl even said to me that she thought the divorce was a long time coming and overdue.
I ended up going back home without warning them because I missed my little girl, and because I felt that there were things that needed to be said.
When she saw me, she went very still, I could see pain radiating through her like a wounded animal, but she didn't come towards me.
When I saw that, I was comfortable that she wouldn't cross boundaries, and I gave her a hug and let her sob into my shoulder. I didn't feel much, I knew she was hurting but I felt detached.
Eventually we started to talk, she told me that she was so proud of me for going naurally, she didn't care if I went a C section, but she was glad I went naturally.
I made a point of telling her that I was only able to do it because I got rid of "him", and she immediately said she didn't want to discuss him, she was completely over him as a topic, and there were things she now had to do regarding him.
There was, and I told her that whatever she did needed to be for her own sake, not us, that I didnt want her there to.do my washing and dishes, I just wanted her there to talk to and to actually listen.
She made a point of saying that her mum wasnt there, and she was all alone and had to do it herself.
So I told her that that's what a good marraige is all about, teamwork and being able to tag team. She then asked what she COULD do, and I said 'nothing', because youre a very capable person, but not at all mindful of yourself or things around you, and now you need to learn that, to be your own person and happy.
I also told her that dealing with her and everything would take a very long time because my brother and I have heard it all, we are both very fragile and need to focus on ourselves and our family.
My sister got to hold bubs and really didn't want to give her up for an hour.
I was very drained by the whole thingbut as yet no nightmares.
I guess I'm just going to sit back and see what eventuates. I need to focus on my partner, baby, self and pets.
Everything else comes after that.
Initially I dissolved into uncontrollable sobs and wouldn't read the text because I thought it would be her telling me to get lost officially.
The other half read the message, and I asked him if it was worth reading. He said that I didn't have to, but maybe later.
I didn'r want it hanging over my head, so I dried my face, waited for my breathing to settle and then read it.
She wanted to see me, as did my my mother, but if I didn't want to see my mother they would respect that.
She also informed me that my mother was in intensive counseling and is seeking a separation from my father.
Initially I said that I didn't want to see my mother, just my sister, so my sister was dropped off while I was walking the dog and she and I chatted while my mother spoke to my partner about the separation.
My other half recorded the conversation, and in the conversation she freely admitted that she hadn't listened to me, and even cited examples dating back weeks, months and years which makes me think that perhaps, just perhaps this might be genuine.
My sister, who is admittedly daddy's girl even said to me that she thought the divorce was a long time coming and overdue.
I ended up going back home without warning them because I missed my little girl, and because I felt that there were things that needed to be said.
When she saw me, she went very still, I could see pain radiating through her like a wounded animal, but she didn't come towards me.
When I saw that, I was comfortable that she wouldn't cross boundaries, and I gave her a hug and let her sob into my shoulder. I didn't feel much, I knew she was hurting but I felt detached.
Eventually we started to talk, she told me that she was so proud of me for going naurally, she didn't care if I went a C section, but she was glad I went naturally.
I made a point of telling her that I was only able to do it because I got rid of "him", and she immediately said she didn't want to discuss him, she was completely over him as a topic, and there were things she now had to do regarding him.
There was, and I told her that whatever she did needed to be for her own sake, not us, that I didnt want her there to.do my washing and dishes, I just wanted her there to talk to and to actually listen.
She made a point of saying that her mum wasnt there, and she was all alone and had to do it herself.
So I told her that that's what a good marraige is all about, teamwork and being able to tag team. She then asked what she COULD do, and I said 'nothing', because youre a very capable person, but not at all mindful of yourself or things around you, and now you need to learn that, to be your own person and happy.
I also told her that dealing with her and everything would take a very long time because my brother and I have heard it all, we are both very fragile and need to focus on ourselves and our family.
My sister got to hold bubs and really didn't want to give her up for an hour.
I was very drained by the whole thingbut as yet no nightmares.
I guess I'm just going to sit back and see what eventuates. I need to focus on my partner, baby, self and pets.
Everything else comes after that.
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amethist
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She is beautiful.
You and your own should always, always come first. :hug:
You and your own should always, always come first. :hug:
zaniara
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Oh... She is SO beautiful! :) :inlove:
Do be careful, and take care of you and your family first. You need to rest and heal. But yay for you being able to be strong enough to say those things. :) :tup:
Do be careful, and take care of you and your family first. You need to rest and heal. But yay for you being able to be strong enough to say those things. :) :tup:
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