Being intimate w/o feeling you're being abused again

[Hush92]

Anyone have any tips for this? I really do want to be in a relationship again but when it comes down to physical intimacy it's like my body freaks out like all the bad stuff is going on again even if mentally I know I'm fine and it's not. It's like that habitual feeling of "I've got to fight this, can't let this happen" etc I'm so sick of it

The day I finally have sex and am happy about it will be the day I conquer ptsd I swear

 

[EveHarrington]

Take it slow.

Find a guy who is willing to give you 100% control.

Control to say “no” at any time, for any reason, without making you feel guilty.

Control to go at YOUR pace.

Make sure he’s 100% in agreement with the tea consent concept.

 

[mamachick]

I have had the "freezing" so I have made a point of not being alone with a male at all....ever!