Relationship Being Psychoanalyzed By My Vet

[Sweetpea76]

It seems like every time he goes through a bad time, he feels the need to start pointing out how flawed I am and playing armchair psychiatrist. I have been diagnosed by him with so many disorders, I'm beginning to get paranoid :sick:.

This has to be some kind of coping mechanism, right?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Defense mechanism?

A way to normalize? (Oddly enough.)

Avoiding being the identified patient?

 

[Deleted member 28812]

I think it must be bad to feel like the "sick one" in a relationship and it's just a coping mechanism.

What did he diagnose you as?

 

[Sweetpea76]

Oh lord, evidently I have everything from daddy issues to bipolar.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I'm not sure if he is just looking for things that could possibly give him the slightest hint of "psycho female waiting to be unleashed" or what.

 

[Sweetpea76]

A way to normalize? (Oddly enough.)

Normalize? So we both are on equal footing, so to speak?

 

[Deleted member 20280]

All I want as a vet is to normalize as much as I can. The whole issue of military trauma is how totally devestating being a soldier can leave us. We live with our decisions in conflict for the rest of our lives. For many that is taking the life of another. I hope people understand how hard that is and why we need some form of normality.

I am sorry you are finding this hard. Please try and see it from a veterans perspective.

Hugs, Laurie

 

[Deleted member 28812]

Oh lord, evidently I have everything from daddy issues to bipolar.

@Larksong posted a great media yesterday:

I would ask him "That's interesting. Why do you think so?"

 

[Sweetpea76]

Please try and see it from a veterans perspective.

I'm trying to, really I am. I just don't understand how him trying to diagnose me with these issues helps to normalize anything. I obviously don't "get it," but I wish I did.

Also, I have been diagnosed professionally with GAD/panic issues, but nothing more. I have had it for years, am treated for it, and have learned to handle it pretty well over time. Just to clarify that there isn't anything more concerning is lurking in the shadows that he is picking up on.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

I think it is more the normality issue. In his mind if you are more equal, it really does seem like tat to me.

 

[Deleted member 28812]

@Santa_Laurie
Just watched a movia about Margaret Thatcher the other way and wondered how the british soldiers thought about her and the Shetland War. I heard you had a buddy involved in that war, a royal Marine, one of the first to land on Goose Green, who tragically died of PTSD.

What do you mean by normality, like no wanting to feel like the crazy one in the relationship?

 

[Deleted member 28812]

@Sweetpea76: What is the role PTSD plays in your relationship? Maybe he feels like the "sick one" too much and thinks you feel like the sane one and look down to him. Just guessing - don't know you or him.