Believing A Lie

[Marie10]

After ending a friendship that was very verbally abusive, I'm getting many text messages from this former friend. I'm called horrific names and she knows me very well and knows this will hurt me.

I've tried to not think about it but now everything is at the surface. I feel exposed, vulnerable and very scared. I feel like nothing and that there is no hope for anything. The words in the text message are horrible and now I'm believing it.

It brings up everything and I'm very worried for myself. I'm trying to take it easy but I cannot shake this.

 

[discarded]

I am glad you said "former friend". If I were you I would change my number and if that is too much hassle can you block her number from your phone? Failing that, just delete anything that comes from them without reading it. You may be able to have her charged with some sort of offence for abusive behaviour toward you. You really need to get this person out of your life, you don't need the stress she is causing you.

Try not to believe anything in the texts, the words are obviously aimed at upsetting you and hurting you. Don't read anymore of them and never respond. Hopefully she will get tired of playing her sick little game and move on.

 

[BerryFactory]

It sounds very courageous for you to stand up for yourself by ending an abusive relationship. I ended abusive relationships with many people I dearly cared about. I even blocked my phone number and when that did not work I had my number changed twice. It was important that in the process of beginning to heal from the abuse that I get away from the negativity.

When I get an overwhelmingly amount of negative thoughts I try to do one of a few things;listen to affirmations I have on audio or ask my self if my current thoughts are helpful. Usually if I feel the need to ask that question the thought(or thoughts) I am having is not helpful. Sometimes by just being mindful I am able to get through that moment.

Another thing I say to myself when I feel really desperate is, that other peoples feelings are none of my business and I continue repeating(or trying to yell over my other thoughts) until I am completely exhausted or I feel better.
I hope one of these ideas can help or inspire you :)

 

[piratelady]

Based her her response to your ending the friendship, it sounds to me like she wasn't a good friend to begin with. Do you have a smart phone? If so, they have some great apps out there that will block both her calls and text messages. I found an excellent one that I used to block my ex.

Maybe if you can break off contact with her, and the text messages stop - one way or another - you will start feeling better and bouncing back. Try to do something nice for yourself, something you enjoy.

 

[Marie10]

Thank You for your comments. This person is out of my life, I've blocked her from everything and am slowly feeling better.

This incident has really upset me and I feel shocked still but I've been in contact with friends who are supportive and that helps a lot. I want to hide but I know that is not good for me so I've been busy seeing friends and doing something good for myself everyday.

This will pass and I will definitely go back to my therapist when she returns from her vacation to discuss this. I need to learn how to keep abusive people out of my life.