Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Jawn]

Junebug, when I talked to my T about stuff leaving the house she also offered me the same insight you shared. Thank you again!

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

I saw my wife briefly today. I stopped at the vet clinic just as they were locking the doors. Her first comment was "why are you here" which didn't make me feel too great, but I told her to see her. I offered to buy her lunch and she said "no thanks, I have stuff to do". Sigh......although this week is one where she worked 7 days and extra on Tuesday and Wednesday evening. So I imagine this afternoon was really her only time to run errands, but I still wanted to spend a little more time with her. Oh well, maybe next weekend.

Jawn

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Jawn,

When I read this thread it makes me realize how much I must be putting my husband though. You talked about how you thought your wife was going to kiss you..I know i've done that before ( and more.) to my husband and I know it must have hurt him. He tries to reach out and I don't let him.

You have to be one of the most patience people. You show the carer side of things wonderfully.

And now I feel awful and like I want to cry.....But I think that's a good thing. I need to see things from the male carer point of view. Need to realize that I am hurting him. I can't let things continue like this.

Thank you! :)

 

[Jawn]

Sigh........more stuff is gone from the house tonight. I'm trying to remember what you said Junebug, but it's sure upsetting to see stuff leaving.

I also got called on the carpet at work this week and told that my performance has been below what they expect. Ugh! That I can work on and hopefully fix, but I sure wish something positive would happen and soon!

 

[intothelight]

Hi Jawn,

I hope your wife soon realizes she left the best thing in the house,.....you.

Debbie

 

[deer_in_headlights]

(((((((((((((Jawn))))))))))))

 

[Jawn]

Thank you Debbie. I hope so too. As my T has said, until I hear something definitive from my wife I will continue to have doubts and uncertainty. I guess I just need to find a way to deal with it until she gets to the point in therapy where she isn't numb anymore.

Jawn

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Sorry things are so tough Jawn. Praying for you.

Hey....I bought ingredients for snickerdoodles today!

 

[Jawn]

Thanks DIH.

 

[Jawn]

Sounds yummy PH!

 

[amethist]

So sorry you are having a tough time with all this Jawn.

This may be hard for you to do, but have you asked her why she is taking all the extra stuff. The answers may be upsetting, but you may also be pleasantly surprised.

If this next bit upsets you, I am sorry not my intention. Has she asked you if she can take any of these extra items, not really because she has to, but more to see if it is OK by you for her to keep doing this. To me this is just showing respect for your feelings, which I am sure you would do if it were the other way round. Possibly not easy for her to do, but it is just a small thing to expect from anyone, with or without PTSD.

Hang in there Jawn.

Amethist

 

[anni]

I've thought that before also, Deb, btw. I don't know, maybe it's just the point I was in the healing when I met my husband but one recognizes lovely people, finally.

Yes, perhaps it should be recognized you're in pain also, Jawn, with some respect, you know? It doesn't take away from her struggle to acknowdge you're having a terrible time, too. As Amethist said also, hang in there.