Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Jawn]

Well it went OK for the most part. We got heated at one point, but then both of us backed way off. We have an agreement pending getting an appraisal on the house. I can't say I am happy with it, but I can live with it. Now I am off to my financial planning class so I can learn how to manage the money I will have left.

 

[KP the nut]

(((Jawn)))
I'm pleased it went as well as it could. It cannot have been easy.

. Now I am off to my financial planning class so I can learn how to manage the money I will have left. ;)

Is this so there can be wine, flowers and chocolate in addition to the condom fund

Look after yourself

 

[ISupportHer]

I just can't imagine how hard this must be. Glad you can find the strength to go on.

ISH

 

[Jawn]

Well things went bad in a hurry yesterday. The attorney representing me called her attorney to make sure enough time was given to work out the settlement. I'm not 100% sure what was said, but my wife told me her attorney says she can't talk to me anymore or take anything from the house because she will be accused of stealing. F-ing attorney's anyway. I'm pretty sure it's her attorney that's causing the problem. Sigh........this may be headed to where I didn't want it to go. Crap!

 

[Marie E.]

I f*cking hate this crap with attorneys too. I'm going through child custody right now, only it is international since my children were born in Canada. I did finally achieve getting their born abroad certificates recently.

Sorry you have to be going through that BS!!

 

[KP the nut]

(((Jawn))) F*****g, F*****g, F*****g (my T says I need to let rage out) attorneys. They are the only ones who come out of these things well.

Stay strong my friend.
KP

 

[Deleted member 6617]

So sorry to hear this Jawn. Hang in there.

 

[Jawn]

I left her a hand written letter yesterday that explained what was going on with stuff and that MY attorney is encouraging us to work out the details of the settlement ourselves. I know she got the letter, so hopefully she reads it and "gets it", so that things don't get too nasty.

I did find out that her attorney wants to spend a LOT of time looking over all of my stock records, the refi of the house, etc. because he thinks I am either hiding assets or I rolled a lot of debt into the mortgage refi to make the house worth less. My wife knows that is BS if he actually says that stuff to her. I think he just wants to look into stuff so he can charge more for his time. Argh!

 

[Nicolette]

Unfortunately what you are going through Jawn is never pleasant or cheap...well, rarely! Keep up the great attitude. :)

 

[valdoodle]

Can I share this with you all and ask for any advice you can give me please? My relationship has now completely baffled me and broken down I think.... because my lovely partner finally left today.
He actually took all his things from our home over last night and this morning. He has combat PTSD. We have been together for 14 years. We were both crying. We both love each other. We both agreed it was unreal like a funeral. My legs were like jelly. We both fell apart.

He has a lovely new flat to go to paid for by the British Legion. I want what is best for him. I thought we had done well together. Come so far on the road to recovery. Then one day about 18 months ago he just stopped recovering after bad PTSD days.

I have told him to keep our key incase he wants to come home. It is so empty, I am so empty I have put him first for 14 years because he has been so ill. I don't know who I am any more. I feel like a jelly and don't see the point of life without him.

Jawn, I am so inspired by you. Thank you for your story. All your stories. The thread is the same. I think it is emotional sickness. Does anyone agree? :cry: :cry: :cry:

 

[Jawn]

I'm sorry to hear this valdoodle. I can only say that it does get better with time, but for now it will be extremely difficult. My wife left last September and the house still seems empty to me, although in our case some of her stuff is still there. I can relate to where you are at and not knowing who you are anymore. I am starting to figure that out for myself, but it has taken a while and some analysis from my therapist. I'm not completely there, but I am to a point to where I KNOW that I will get there in time. So for now, you just need to do the best you can and try to move forward one step at a time. There will be good days and bad days, you just need to hang in there and try to stay positive. And post your thoughts, feelings, questions, etc. on the forum and you will get a lot of support and good advice.

 

[Jawn]

Now for a quick update on my situation. My wife's attorney sent my attorney a letter saying he is going for a default judgement if we don't respond in time, and he is pushing for temporary support and a few other things. He also made some very negative comments about me to my wife. At this point she is PISSED at him and realizes he is the one trying to start a fight. So, she is coming over to the house on Saturday to box up more of her stuff and to try and come up with "creative" alternatives to the unresolved items in our settlement. If we can agree on those, then we will write something up and take it back to the shyster and tell him to write it up legal-like AS IS. She wants to just get the settlement agreement written, signed, and filed. Get it over with and keep it peaceful.

So hopefully that will work out over the weekend and we can get something done quickly. I know I am to the point to where I don't want to drag it on any longer.

Jawn