Bullied At Work...again

[Grace511]

So last week at work this girl thought I was listening to her personal phone call and so she started screaming that people needed to mind their own business.

I snapped and yelled people need to calm down. I also emailed her supervisor letting him know I was not listening to her call but needless to say,he said perception is everything. He told us both to stop bickering back and forth,so I stopped but she didn't. All her friends and team members made comments and she even made comments to me in the bathroom.

Finally I had enough and went to HR Friday. Told them the story.

Yesterday my supervisor,who knows I have PTSD, called me in to talk with him and HR. They ended up calling her in and she was not happy when she came out but they also said if I get a doctors note,they will make an accommodation for me. For example,if he says I need a couple five to ten minute breaks a day they will put that in my schedule which is nice.

But getting to the point,since this happened I have been very depressed and my anxiety has increased. I have suicidal and self harm thoughts. I even feel so angry I could destroy something.

I'm tired of being a weak person and letting things get to me.

Someone at work on my team who I thought was my friends questions me about the situation. She is like "How do you know the other team does not like you, how do you know they were talking about you?" BECAUSE I HAVE EYES AND EARS. I'm so flipping frustrated.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I hear stories such as yours and it angers me that the bullying issue is so huge. It angers me that adults have such a junior high pack following mentality.

I've dealt with adult bullying. Fortunately in my case it wasn't a workplace situation and I could easily shut these people out of my life

But more importantly, back to you... I want to scream "you're not a weak person!" but I know a lot of people don't like all caps. No, you're not a weak person. PTSD has nothing to do with weakness. I'd go so far as to say that in a lot of ways we are actually stronger than others because of what we've been through.

Can you take some time to a little TLC self-care? You deserve it!

 

[ronin47]

You're not a weak person, you're psychological skin has been burned and burned skin cringes at the slightest touch. I understand the feeling of impatience, wanting the burn to heal quicker, but it must heal at its own pace.

The only thing you can do is take what self-care measures you can until you have returned to your emotional baseline. Be aware that you're going to be a little more sensitive and make allowances for that. Maybe spend some extra time watching TV or doing other things that distract and calm you. Maybe take a little more time to just be by yourself at the end of the day. Some people just never grow up. That's a fact of life and there's really nothing you can do about it.

 

[_vikki]

My colleagues tried to force me to quit my job when I first started, they watched me and told my manager everything I did, when I left my desk, when I looked at my phone, they refused to say hello or goodbye to me and when they did speak to me it was with hostility. I thought, nah, fk it, I'm here to pay my rent not to please you, so I stuck it out. You let yourself show them that they will not push you down, I have been at my job for 8 months now and I get on really quite well with them now.

 

[Britt.f7]

I was bullied at work, mainly by my supervisor. It made my job unbearable. I truly believe I would still be working if they were more compassionate about my disability. It didn't help that all the stress of that made my disability worse. I still have dreams that I work there and I haven't worked there in over 7 years. Talk about unresolved issues.

Try not to let them get to you. If you have therapy, make sure to discuss it there. I wish I would have sought out therapy when it was all happening. I can't tell you how many times I left work in tears, or cried at my desk. Therapy would have been great.

I'm glad HR is working with you. Try to nevermind the naysayers.

 

[circe47]

I flipping HATE employees who conduct personal business on company time. In my former position as receptionist, it was my duty to screen calls. Let me tell you- I HATED constantly screening calls from personal debt collectors, frustrated pre-school teachers, husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, and everyone else not business related.

What broke the straw in the camel's back for me was the personal-call-getting employees having the nerve to complain about MY job performance. Hey, I did everything I was told and with cheery smile and a "how soon would you like it." I also NEVER missed a deadline- or if I did, it was by minutes only. When I was initially hired after negotiating my duties and privileges, I was told by the office manager himself that I could surf the 'net whenever I had down time. So, I did. I enjoyed researching, pruning my Farmville trees, and doing jigsaw puzzles while I screened yet another personal call for some a$$hole employee with a sense of entitlement.

I still have a hard time understanding the nerve of some employees. Employees that have no problem wasting company time by badmouthing the boss, taking personal calls, and enjoying multiple coffee/cigarette/gossip breaks. The very same employees that say "I'm too busy" to answer the receptionist's question about how to use media software that she's used like only once in her three year run with the company, as they grab their coat and dash out the door for yet another break.

Come on.....GIMME A BREAK!!!!!

 

[circe47]

Gosh........this topic just peeeeeeeeeves me. I have a bad feeling I'm never going to get over my bullying ex employers unless I vent it all in a blog, names and all, and send it in a blanket bulletin to [email protected]

Hmmmmmmm.......wonderful idea.....isn't it?

 

[mindgames63]

I lost three jobs to bullying on my last job my boss a lady was an aggressively rude tyrant. Totally unapproachable, cunning and manipulative. She sided from day three with all the people who caused me trouble. After three days on the job which I was training under the guidance of an ugly disgusting pathetic woman who wants to be twenty instead of sixty. this bitch reported me to the Manager saying I wasnt good enough for the office she was very jealous of me because I had more brains more youthful looks just plain as day jealousy. the manager sided with her and I was out of a job in three days of training. I was expected by this old mole to learn office procedures she had been doing for 29 years what a jealous disgusting pathetic mole. Have an operation if you werent happy with your looks plenty of plastic surgeons mole. What scum of human beings her and the Manager may they both rot in hell.