News Can Anxiety Kill Your Ability To Love?

[Estacia]

For me, It does not allow me to Love to my full ability. I'm so caught up in surviving the moment.

 

[Hashi]

If the anxiety is transformed by love, then we're talking about love.

If the anxiety co-exists with love, then we're talking about anything - perhaps even manipulation, guilt tripping and control. At the receiving end of this, the anxiety is what I see. The love means nothing to me. So please be careful. And I'm hoping we're talking the transformation option, for the sake of the recipient of the love. Otherwise, suffocation might be more the word.

I've just spent the day with my mother. I know she loves me. It doesn't change the manipulation and control. The anxiety needs to be transformed, not the perception of the anxiety.

I'm not saying anyone here is the above. Just saying it's possible. It's possible that love doesn't transend anxiety in practice. Awareness and clarity is a good thing.

 

[saffy]

What a heartfelt post. I agree with the idea that anxiety can affect love and relationships. It can stop you loving someone and being loved.

I have always felt that Anxiety is just the sympton and not the cause. I can learn to control the signs of anxiety but the reason I am getting anxious is very ingrained to the point that I feel that I am being a fraud If I love someone and certainly cannot let anyone love me, or ever beleive they can unconditionally.

I think it is normal for people to get anxious in love situations and this will have a direct affect on it but a lot of people learn that their sudden anxious thoughts are unrealistic and unfounded and with support they can move on in a positive light. It is not normal though to actually believe the reason for this anxiety and this mindset is real and cannot be changed and is set as a rigid way of behaving and thinking.

I get very anxious in both romantic or friend relationships because I beleive in my thought process and fear changing them even though I can control some of the anxious behaviour so people think everything is ok, it is almost a mask, but in reality I feel no trust or hope or belief that this person is genuine.

Interesting post :)

Saffy

 

[Ricanoland]

I have had a taste of this thing we call love, and my PTSD and (other parts of ricanoland) helped make that lovefest into a small short lived sampling of love. So I disagree I can love, but the real question can they love me? :)

 

[saffy]

OR the question could be 'Will I let them love me?'

Saffy

 

[Britt.f7]

I don't think the anxiety in of itself can kill love. I think it would effect the relationship, but not whether or not you love or can be loved.

I think the ptsd as a whole is what effects your ability to love. When my children were born I felt the purest form of love, I didn't know I could love to that extent.

Sometimes I have difficulties giving and receiving love. I never tell my husband this, though I think he knows the receiving love part. I think he really needs to be with someone who loves him completely, who never feels numb to it.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I struggle with anxiety so much, but it does not interfere with my ability to love. I still feel it and I show it. I think anxiety is a seperate issue. It does make life harder, but it does not kill love in my experience. Intersting topic. It keeps me thinking of things.