Catcalls

[hodge]

I endured this constantly when I lived back in the Detroit area. I couldn't go out of the house without it happening, and I hated it, just hated it. It made me feel vulnerable and like an object, as if the only thing I was good for was my looks. Sometimes I would be followed and that was really scary.

Luckily since I've moved to a really small town, it hasn't happened. I've never witnessed any catcalling here. I think it's because everybody knows everybody, for one thing. For another thing, men here are really different, from a much more reserved set of ethnicities with quite conservative and respectful social cultures. Since I've been here (18 years now) only a handful of men have even flirted with me. One did it in the presence of my husband, but he was drunk (the flirter, not my husband).

It is really nice to be able to take a walk and only have people wave in a friendly manner. It's actually taken me years to even look at people driving in passing cars because I was so used to ignoring them in order to not draw attention. You know, like how as a kid you used to hide the vegetables you didn't like under your plate? If you don't see them, they don't see you. Or, at least, you hope :-).

 

[EveHarrington]

I'm actually really curious how often other women get cat-called. It doesn't happen to me...

I'm at the opposite end. I never get cat called. I mentioned this in another thread------I never have guys making rude comments toward me. I do get chatted up and hit on. I remember it being an issue when I lived in a college town, but never before and never since. I have lived in cities, in the country. I am in a rural area now------never see it happening to other women either. I think location does make a difference.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Catcallers are morons. Next time one does that, yell back at them: "Is your ass jealous of the amount of shit that just came out of your mouth?"

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Neverthesame hahahahaha, I actually dated a guy with that same problem. Wasn't a fun 10 seconds either. I was embarrassed for him........

 

[St.Maybe]

I can't say I especially agree that a man's belligerent behavior and his penis size are correlated, friends. Though when the correlation is there I certainly admit that I'm always sure to note it as significant when formulating my (normally outrage-fueled and entirely inexpert) explanation for their immature or otherwise out-of-turn behavior... I wonder if that's really a healthy way of assessing our male counterparts, though. Okay, I don't wonder :p