Changing Therapists-how To Appropriately Say Good Bye To The Old One

[SinkorSwim]

Should I give my old therapist the time of day and cancel in person or can I just call it and discuss it over the phone? Would that be rude of me not to do it in person? I'd rather not waste another appointment.

 

[Keming]

A call doesn't seem rude. I'd just call. T might want to discuss it (reasons for leaving, ascertaining you have a support network, etc.) but there's no reason to answer if you prefer not to.

Therapist is just a consultant. It's no different than calling to cancel the plumber. Therapist's interest is clinical, not personal.

 

[Esterio]

Hi Katiesue
Not sure what the right way to do it is. I have not even been able to accept a call from him or return the call and leave a message. I know I need to do something. He is going for surgery tomorrow. I see my doctor On Friday and see what he thinks i should do. He left me hanging with no supports Twice once he didn't even call to cancel. I am supposed to have had 12 session and I have had 5 ,6 were canceled and one the next one after my first EMDR he was not in the office and I was a mess. I am pissed but trying very very hard not to loose my cool and it is being difficult. That is why i have not taken his calls or returned his message. I feel like a chicken. I have not even listen to his last message. Sorry I didn't have any Ideas of the proper way to leave your T.
Did you Find a new T? I have not yet and it sounds as though I will have to travel out of town. That will be hard will take all day travel I don't think I am up to that.
Peace be safe

 

[SinkorSwim]

Today I called and let my therapist know I wasn't going to continue with her anymore. It was a brief and to the point. A lot easier than I thought. Looking forward to starting with my new therapist in a couple weeks. She said I can always come back to her if I want.

 

[Esterio]

Hi Katiesue
Cool I am proud for you. It was easy too. I real had a hard time leaving a message with my T last night. I told him that this was just to inconsistent for me to continue and if he thought that would change I would be willing to think about starting again but I was not going to be on again off again. That is not working and it is hurting me. Bye

 

[SinkorSwim]

Hi Katiesue
Cool I am proud for you. It was easy too. I real had a hard time leaving a message with my...

Yay! I am so proud of you too! Way to take charge! I am now going to attempt brainspotting as therapy. It is an offshoot of EMDR. CBT kind of did something for me but I never felt completely connected to what I was saying and was dissociating most of it.