Sufferer Children With Ptsd From Home

[Tiffany2]

Hello. I'm Astrid. Welcome to the forum. If you have any questions I can do what I can to help ge...

Thank you. I guess my biggest question is how to hang on? My children have continuous bouts of depression and talk of suicide. I try to listen and be calm and supportive. So often they lash out at me, just like my ex did. I just want to say,"You can't speak to me like that. " it sets off a trigger for me. We all are suffering, but as the parent, I try to be strong because in my childhood, I did not have trauma or depression, so I kmnkw things can be different. I must admit, after 20 years I am exhausted. Help?

 

[Astrid_Shadow]

@Tiffany2 Sounds like you have been through a lot and I truly am sorry about that. Hanging on is the hardest thing to do, there are times when you just wanna say "I quit..I can't do this anymore" its moments like these where you need to hang on the tightest. My best advice? Just take it one day at a time. Accept what happened and that the past can't be changed and slowly walk forward. Looking forward to something is better than looking back at something. What I'm trying to say Tiffany is that trauma happens. It happens and it sucks, but the most important thing you can do is be there for your children. Let them know that everything is gonna be ok. Have you tried doing family therapy? It can come in handy after experiencing trauma.

 

[Tiffany2]

@Tiffany2 Sounds like you have been through a lot and I truly am sorry about...

We have been in therapy In several situations for about 10 years. We have not done it as a group, though.that is a thought. It just breaks me down when my son goes on and on about the hopelessness of life and his everyone is douchebag! I am a very spiritual And positive person. It wears on me and makes melees effective as a supporter. My daughter is upset because she feels herr brother gets all the attention and there is nothing left for her.

 

[Astrid_Shadow]

@Tiffany2 I suggest you try out group therapy. See if it makes a difference. I know its hard to watch but you being there and being the rock they can lean on is what they need the most. Show her thats not true and that you love them both the same.

 

[Tiffany2]

Why is it so difficult for them to see good in a situation and look upward? My son is often so down on everything to the point of self-sabotage.