Christmas And New Years Eve

[Usa]

I'm in a shut out for Christmas. The past few years he's at least responded, not this year. I'm just so tired.

 

[Towewa]

My vet is awful at Christmas. A close friend of his was killed when the friends wife was pregnant. Every year my vet cries on Christmas Day thinking of that little boy who never got even one Christmas with his Daddy.

I know he thinks of all the mates he lost and the Christmas cheer makes him feel that society doesn't care they died.

He also thinks of Christmas' he kissed with his kids because he was deployed.

His survivors guilt is strongest this time of year and he is often passively suicidal around now.

We try very hard to treat Christmas as just another day...

 

[Arev]

Missed not kissed. Stupid phone.

 

[Odega]

What do those of you whose sufferers find Christmas and especially news years eve problematic do for the holidays?

My s...

Hi. Happy New Year!!
My boyfriend and I just discussed this the other night. He was deployed multiple times and spent back to back Christmas' on the battle field. 89/90 Panama. 91 Somalia. 92 Iraq. etc. These are a few of his "anniversary" dates so the holidays are usually stressful to say the least. And we can't forget Memorial day, Veterans day, Patriots day not to mention anniversary dates he remembers subconsciously. I can only imagine the guilt, sorrow, remorse and anger he feels during these times. He is a trooper through it all though and I know when he needs down time. These are the days we have to put all of our tools to work. I hope the new year brings you peace, love and joy!! Take care

 

[Opev]

Happy New Year everybody,
My guy just did things on his computer (for several days) and he did not really shut us out, he had dinner with us, but did not come with us when we went places. Relatives of mine made remarks.


*sigh*

 

[Rucevu]

Only two ways to deal with the relatives and their remarks.

1. Completely ignore them.

2. Tell them they have no freaking idea what they are talking about and if they ever comment again they will find themselves choking on the Christmss ham as you shove it down their throats whole.