Z, too. Ugh. I remember crying in his car parked in my driveway once, having to apologise for all my "issues" and having to "admit" to him that their cause was because my parents got me vaccinated as a child according to the national vaccine schedule.
VERY RELATABLE
Ugh, the craziest people are also so, so dense... I kept up on my vaccines though. I was in a teenage nursing program thing and was fully aware what not getting vaccinated could do. Also my mom was educated and got us vaccinated, even my little bro after my dad lied to doctors about what vaccines he had (and they believed him!!) because he wanted my brother to get a deadlier version of chicken pox :/ (as in, older kids get deadlier/more permanent side effects that young kids do not)
@LuckiLee We had an order of protection! It would have lasted until I was 18 except my mom wasn’t reporting his stalking behavior and the numorous times he contacted her despite the order. My mom was convinced my dad would want to see us and didn’t want to report the behavior that would prevent him from seeing us. She thought it would upset us, even though we’d been writing her letters since we could first write about how we wanted our dad to go away and be divorced from our mom. (Which he’d say was my older sister being a bad influence. Nah, dude, your kids hate you!)
My twin brother never had an order of protection against my dad. The judge asked if my dad had ever hurt Twin, and my mom and Twin were both on the spot I guess because they couldn’t think of anything (no deafness, no attacking because he was autistic, no starving him and then hitting him when he screamed while autistic-triggered) — so my dad got to have my twin on weekends! It was insane! Luckily my dad was only interested once and didn’t kill him.
My mom could get an order of protection again, because he’s still stalking her. I am unsure if I could, because my dad’s a bit afraid of me now. He seems to want me to like him — it’s confusing. He hasn’t apologized to me though so it hardly matters. If he bothers me I would hesitate to have him banned from talking to me. Not sure why — maybe im still afraid of hurting his feelings? My dad has depression and bipolar (the kind of has very high highs and very scary lows) on top of being a psychopath so that makes it hard because he wants to be cheered up and turns to alcohol. I’ve been told that his psychologist he had for a bit (who he might have assaulted??) said that his alcoholic behavior was better while we were still talking, because I can read him well and know what to say to cheer him up. Makes me feel sad for him, but it is what it is. I get sad too and he sometimes showed sympathy but only rarely.
I remember the sympathy well though because it really boosted my self esteem. I felt like if he said something it was probably True. Because he was like me, mostly mute with fear and couldn’t talk much about us, and when he did, it was in a third grader voice. Unless he was drunk. He talked about everything else, though, usually for eighteen hours straight and no one was allowed to interrupt.
He disowned my little bro for saying that my dad abused him. My little bro doesn’t know that because they don’t talk, but I don’t want to tell him because my little bro wanted to rekindle a friendship one day. I will warn him when he’s older that our dad will probably hates who he hates forever and not realize it’s socially unacceptable
Tl;dr I think my mom should get a new order of protection or a restraining order, but I don’t know about everyone else
