amethist
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Last night hubby had a complete fall out, worse than he has had in months.
I suppose it all started with our granddaughter coming to stay for the weekend, which he can cope with, just.
I took her home yesterday, leaving him not quite sure which way was up.
When I cam back he seemed to be a lot calmer and said he just wanted some food and a sleep to get over the rest of it all.
When he got up he seemed to be a lot calmer and more relaxed, as if the sleep had done its job.
He then decided he wanted to get out for an hour, go to the pub and have a couple of pints, before tea. I was not too keen on the idea, but he seemed OK at that point, so I let him go at around 5 pm.
Biggest mistake I have made for ages. I should have talked him out of going, or gone with him. I did not want to go though, it had been a tiring few days, and I just wanted to chill out.
He came back around 7.30, not drunk at all, but visibly upset. It took me a while to get him to talk and when he did, it was scary.
He did not know where he had been, and had left one pub after having just a half, not quite right, but came back to reality about a mile away. He could have ended anywhere by the sounds of it.
He then went to another pub and had another half, sitting out side trying to get his head round everything.
After being home for a while being home for a while he decided to ring the friend who we had gone to see for help a few weeks back, this is where he went down hill big time. he got more and more upset while trying to explain what had happened to the point he gave me the phone.
All hell broke loose after that.
He wanted to know who was on the phone, why had I rung them to come and take him away, and no way was anyone locking him up. he was crying and visibly scared of everything. He accused me of not looking after him as I used to, and why should he trust me again after trying to get him locked up.
At this point I just let him rant on and get it out of his system, its the only way he can get past this type of thing. he then started talking about how animals were better than humans, how they had a natural instinct with him, knowing when he is ill.
He then brought up the phone again, and I finally got him to understand who was on the phone and why, it all seemed to fall into place then.
It was well past the time he should have taken his medication by then, and I was worried he would say I was trying to poison him or something, but he took them without a fuss and said he was hungry. I knew then he was calming down and would be OK once he had eaten and I could get him to bed.
None of the above was helped by the fact that a police car pulled up outside and he panicked that he had done something while out. This took me a while to convince him that they had nothing to do with us, even having to lock the door and promise not to let them in if they came knocking.
He seems to have had a good nights sleep, though he did get up for a while at one point.
Today we are supposed to be having my youngest daughter to visit and have a meal with us. I think I will cancel the meal and just let them come round for an hour.
I need time out now as well much as he does.
I suppose it all started with our granddaughter coming to stay for the weekend, which he can cope with, just.
I took her home yesterday, leaving him not quite sure which way was up.
When I cam back he seemed to be a lot calmer and said he just wanted some food and a sleep to get over the rest of it all.
When he got up he seemed to be a lot calmer and more relaxed, as if the sleep had done its job.
He then decided he wanted to get out for an hour, go to the pub and have a couple of pints, before tea. I was not too keen on the idea, but he seemed OK at that point, so I let him go at around 5 pm.
Biggest mistake I have made for ages. I should have talked him out of going, or gone with him. I did not want to go though, it had been a tiring few days, and I just wanted to chill out.
He came back around 7.30, not drunk at all, but visibly upset. It took me a while to get him to talk and when he did, it was scary.
He did not know where he had been, and had left one pub after having just a half, not quite right, but came back to reality about a mile away. He could have ended anywhere by the sounds of it.
He then went to another pub and had another half, sitting out side trying to get his head round everything.
After being home for a while being home for a while he decided to ring the friend who we had gone to see for help a few weeks back, this is where he went down hill big time. he got more and more upset while trying to explain what had happened to the point he gave me the phone.
All hell broke loose after that.
He wanted to know who was on the phone, why had I rung them to come and take him away, and no way was anyone locking him up. he was crying and visibly scared of everything. He accused me of not looking after him as I used to, and why should he trust me again after trying to get him locked up.
At this point I just let him rant on and get it out of his system, its the only way he can get past this type of thing. he then started talking about how animals were better than humans, how they had a natural instinct with him, knowing when he is ill.
He then brought up the phone again, and I finally got him to understand who was on the phone and why, it all seemed to fall into place then.
It was well past the time he should have taken his medication by then, and I was worried he would say I was trying to poison him or something, but he took them without a fuss and said he was hungry. I knew then he was calming down and would be OK once he had eaten and I could get him to bed.
None of the above was helped by the fact that a police car pulled up outside and he panicked that he had done something while out. This took me a while to convince him that they had nothing to do with us, even having to lock the door and promise not to let them in if they came knocking.
He seems to have had a good nights sleep, though he did get up for a while at one point.
Today we are supposed to be having my youngest daughter to visit and have a meal with us. I think I will cancel the meal and just let them come round for an hour.
I need time out now as well much as he does.
