Assault Concerning answers to AI question about whether he'll kill me, what do you think?

[sidptitala]

Hi everyone,

I am not sure if this was the wisest move, but I asked chat gpt for help assessing if my extreme fear that the person who abused me will kill me, my mom or sister was justified. Or if I am more afraid than I need to be for ptsd reasons. It asked me a checklist of questions about him- and I answered them.

This was the response to me filling that checklist in (questions asked are included):

Based on your responses, you’ve given YES to nearly every single risk factor in the assessment — including:

• Severe history of abuse (childhood and adulthood, escalating).
• No remorse, entitlement, manipulative behavior.
• Pressure for contact despite your wishes.
• Past use of objects violently.
• Untreated mental illness.
• Stalking behavior.
• Family minimizing, no consequences, and your isolation.
• Your own sense of fear and hypervigilance.

This adds up to very high risk. Even without direct threats of killing, the pattern is deeply concerning. Many cases of serious violence occur without an explicit threat first — especially when there is entitlement, lack of accountability, and escalation across time.

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Assessment Outcome​

According to danger assessment guidelines:

• 10+ “Yes” answers = Severe Risk.
• You scored 17 out of 20 possible risk factors.

That places your father in the highest danger category. From a professional standpoint, this means you should act as though future violence is highly likely if he gains access to you.

What This Means for You​

• No contact is the safest stance (if possible legally).
• Strengthen your safety plan: keep documents, money, phone access, and routes ready.
• Tell someone outside your family who believes you — friend, therapist, DV advocate, police if you feel safe doing so.
• Document everything (messages, visits, harassment, past violence). It may protect you later if you need legal intervention.
• Trust your gut: your fear is justified. You are not “overreacting.”

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Survivors sometimes get worn down when family minimizes risk — but your checklist shows clear, high danger. You are right to take this seriously.

I know it's almost impossible to answer these kinds of 'what if' questions. But does it seem to you like the AI is right to be so concerned?

I have no legal options to protect myself from him, beyond maybe bringing him to court for sexual abuse in some years? But I have no evidence of that, and can't be sure I remember all the instances. Doing so would also likely rid me of my remaining family. I doubt he would be convicted based on my word alone that or that it would even go to trial. So it seems likely that any potential benefit of him being informed I've spoken about it is not worth the risk?

I'm so confused

 

[Friday]

I know it's almost impossible to answer these kinds of 'what if' questions. But does it seem to you like the AI is right to be so concerned?

Of course it is… it is a statistical analysis.

Stastiscally… your ex WILL attempt to kill you.

That doesn’t mean they will. “Just” that the odds are in favor of drivers accelerating at green lights, yeast causing bread to rise, your ex trying to kill you, etc.

Statistically? So was mine. And he did. Attempt. A couple dozen times. Both in person (pushing me into oncoming traffic, attempting to strangle me -that takes a reeeeeally long time, most people don’t have the hand strength to achieve it- fracturing my skull by slamming it into the ground until someone else distracted him… as well as 3rd party bullshit (like publishing my address online to rape me, kill me, f*ck with me, etc. sites).. Plus slow acting shit like putting shattered glass in my cereal, antifreeze in my water, etc.

So… statistically… your ex is a murderous bastard.

That in NO WAY correlates to your survival.

Your survival? Is about you. Not them.

Will your ex try? According to the AI, yep!
Will they succeed? Depends on you.

 

[Friday]

I have no legal options to protect myself from him,

Um… honey? Those aren’t “real” things.

I had ELEVEN restraining orders on my ex. He broke all of them. Because paper doesn’t stop anyone from doing anything. They “simply” change the legal minimums IF AND ONLY IF they’re CAUGHT AND PROVED LATER IN A COURT OF LAW (2 different things) doing them. They’re an easy-button for the courts, and investigators, AFTER the fact. They don’t prevent the fact.

Do you want a $200 fine, or 5 years in jail, for poisoning your dog??? (Bartered down by their offence attorney to a $5oo fine & counseling?) That’s the difference of a piece of paper. The SENTENCE, AFTER THE FACT. A pissant animal cruelty fine, or real time, or a pissant fine & shrug towards justice. But? Your dog is still dead. Both ways. And they still don’t meet any reasonable punishments.

If YOU DIE, with paper on you, pointing towards the most likely suspect? They’ll investigate them first. And any deals made, will probably include at least a few months in jail. As there was existing paperwork. But? You’re still dead. And they got 3 years, or 20, instead of none or 5. You??? Still. f*cking. Dead.

Legal recourse does jack shit to protect you. It “just” increases the consequences, after the act. Maybe. Sometimes. Depends on their lawyer.

Protect yourself. CYA with the law, sure. But that’s all it is. It doesn’t PROTECT you from them, it “just” protects you from the courts, themselves. Sometimes. Maybe. If.

 

[Sideways]

How is this helpful to you? Tbh, the statistics are awful. For most things. No one would drive a car (or even ride a scooter), or play sport, or go swimming, if we had AI running risk asssessments for us on everything.

You know what your ex is capable of. Or not capable of. You are in a much better situation to assess your risks. And take into account your values, priorities, life, options…

I have no legal options to protect myself from him

Practical measures can be very effective. I rate geographical distance together with managing communication very highly.

 

[sidptitala]

Statistically? So was mine. And he did. Attempt. A couple dozen times. Both in person (pushing me into oncoming traffic, attempting to strangle me -that takes a reeeeeally long time, most people don’t have the hand strength to achieve it- fracturing my skull by slamming it into the ground until someone else distracted him… as well as 3rd party bullshit (like publishing my address online to rape me, kill me, f*ck with me, etc. sites).. Plus slow acting shit like putting shattered glass in my cereal, antifreeze in my water, etc.

God @Friday, that's terrible. What an asshole (I'm glad you survived).

Will your ex try? According to the AI, yep!
Will they succeed? Depends on you.

Yeah.. I think I wanted to convince myself he was no current threat because I'm so tired of living in this constant alert state, waiting to have to run away again.

To be clear, this is my dad and not an ex. So never seeing him again is very complicated as the rest of my family still live with him (and I want to see them, and I'm also worried about them).

Those aren’t “real” things.

I had ELEVEN restraining orders on my ex. He broke all of them. Because paper doesn’t stop anyone from doing anything

Yeah, I know the legal system is not designed to prevent terrible things from happening. It takes a lot more than it to do that, and you still can't a lot of the time.

In my particular case, he's actually quite afraid of police, judges, and other men. He's just not scared of me. Not being able to apply for those things stings because I feel like they'd maybe be effective with him. I suppose I don't have time to think about what might have been. I am just so so tired and need to put the burden of all this alertness down for awhile (and can't).

If YOU DIE, with paper on you, pointing towards the most likely suspect? They’ll investigate them first. And any deals made, will probably include at least a few months in jail. As there was existing paperwork. But? You’re still dead. And they got 3 years, or 20, instead of none or 5. You??? Still. f*cking. Dead.

How is this helpful to you?

Well, it's encouraging me to take measures to disappear. So that's probably a good thing. I have put myself in situations where I can see that I was in danger from him. So it's definitely helping me to take measures to avoid doing that.

It is helpful, it's just terrifying.

(although having these realisations alone, in the middle of the night, without being able to talk about it with anyone in person even in the following weeks : is probably bad for me, and I should stop).