That's a stick a lot of us use to beat ourselves up with in order to blame ourselves for our abuse.
Oh, no doubt. I wasn't really using that as a tie-in with the kind of consent I'm seeing discussed here, though. I was thinking more along the lines of, you know...if you watch someone kill someone, you are complicit in their behavior.
Oops. I guess maybe I do believe that about kids, even. Or me, anyway. I have two specific things in my past - which I don't talk about but which seem to be driving this conversation - where I watched something horrific happen and did nothing about it. I was 4-ish the first time and in high school the other.
Enthusiastic and continuous.
if your fight, flight, freeze, fawn response is freeze like I tend to do that doesn’t mean you’ve given consent. We really need to teach young people non verbal cues as well
Yeah, that makes sense.