Relationship Control creeping in again.

[Sweetpea76]

Nope... hell naw.

This is not PTSD. This is controlling and it’s getting worse and worse. This isn’t the way you treat somebody you love and respect.

 

[A13]

i Actually don’t know what to do. Obviously baby is a big staying factor but I’m seriously not sure if this is something I can forgive????

 

[Gs172003]

i Actually don’t know what to do. Obviously baby is a big staying factor but I’m seriously not sure if this is something I can forgive????

Honey. The baby is all the more reason to be careful with this situation.

 

[Hojay]

Wow, that’s some thorough surveillance right there. It’s scary, because it’s a form of stalking and stalking is not good news in terms of predicting future abusive behavior. And yes, this is abuse.

I agree with @Zoogal, it’d be because of the baby, not despite the baby, that this situation shouldn’t continue as is.

How on earth did you find out he has your WhatsApp linked to his desktop?!

 

[A13]

He mentioned a few messages I had been sent word for word and a photo that was sent into a group chat. Then I started googling how to mirror WhatsApp and it showed the the screenshot. U do it in settings and WhatsApp/web browser
There’s a barcode to scan then it hooks my WhatsApp up to a desktop site version.
When I went on it told me a last online time and location.

 

[Hojay]

Ok, so he actually took your phone and scanned the barcode. I mean, it’s already bad, but there is multiple steps, taking phone and scanning barcode kind of bad. You must be in complete shock to see this happened. Have you confronted him yet? If not, I’d get my ducks in a row first, and really calmly make a decision for yourself before you speak to him, or else there’s always the risk of being talked out of what one already knows.

 

[EveHarrington]

Obviously baby is a big staying factor

Can I ask you what you see as the top things you need to provide for your child?

It seems to me that you don’t care about your child’s safety and well being as long as he/she lives under the same roof as his/her father.

You’re being stalked from within a relationship! Jealous psycho people don’t get better without extensive intervention, and I’m not seeing that happening anytime soon. Actually, it’s your job to get out, because things have already gone too far!

I honestly think you’re at the point of needing the help of a women’s shelter in order to leave this relationship. They will help you put your ducks in a row so that you can get out in the safest way possible.

I hope that it’s able to sink in just how serious this situation really is. He’s isolating you from half of the population, and more. You are allowed less and less privacy. You’re being accused of doing things you haven’t done.

If you stay with this man and bow down to his commands, you will eventually find yourself with zero friends, zero support. It will be infinitely harder to get away when you have no support and a few more kids. But, this is ultimately what he wants.

 

[Sideways]

i Actually don’t know what to do.

Certainly here where I live, you’d be entitled to support from womens shelters. They often have good information about how to leave situations like this safely. They take it fairly seriously, because the moment when you leave is the most dangerous time for you. This is now abusive, and it’s important for you, and your unborn child, that you’re honest to yourself about that.

If you simply can’t confront a womens shelter, reach out to a close friend, or go and stay with family, while you get your exit strategy together. You need to not be there when he’s getting help (and he can get help), you need to not be bringing a baby into this situation. Your friends and family are a great resource to call on at this point.

 

[Gs172003]

@A13 are you ok?

 

[Montgomery]

Give him an ultimatum?
Either he stops acting like an idiot or you leave. What he is doing is abusive.

 

[A13]

@Zoogal thank you yes I am. I’ve removed myself from the situation until Ive had a good hard think about what’s best for me and bubs!!!
I appreciate you asking!! X

 

[Gs172003]

@Zoogal thank you yes I am. I’ve removed myself from the situation until Ive had a good hard think about what’s best for me and bubs!!!
I appreciate you asking!! X

Good! You're welcome