Coping With A Delayed Diagnoses

[Jacquie]

Great thread. Great to see everyone opening up and sharing their stories, so people dont feel alone in what has happened 'at' them. (((hugz all round)))

 

[SimplyComplex]

it's mental illness by-proxy. My mom is a bit of a sociopath. Both parents are alcoholics and drug addicts. I was the scapegoat and what I endured is inexcusable

Thanks for this. I never thought of this phrase. My mom was Munchhausen by proxy-ish (I say "ish" because her symptoms are obvious, but not as severe as you might see on TV). But I was the mental health scape goat. My mom had a mental breakdown when I was 8. I broke down as well (as I think most 8 year olds would if their mom was doing what mine was) and once she got her feet under her, she blamed me saying "you just don't know what it was like to have a child like that. It was so hard, you will understand when you have kids" and saying our lives were perfect until then. I just had to go be unstable and ruin our lives. Then when I was older, I was accused of the mood swings and abuse that she was doing. And I just got to where I agreed with her, I was awful and messed up and she was fine. Whatever.

Yesterday in therapy T asked if I had any thoughts on why my parents sort of promoted me to the head of the family so young (where they didn't with my older sis or younger brother) and I didnt at the time. She said maybe they sensed I was the only "normal one".

That is something to ponder. Me, the normal on? Wow...it actually seems true.

 

[thinlizzy4010]

I have been diagnosed with chronic ptsd, anxiety and depression. And I am apparently borderline for a couple of other things too. I was diagnosed 26+ years after the fact. I have found it confusing having a diagnosis because I feel it is a disorder that I still cannot share with others. Well, that was until I found this forum of course. I would like to move on in my life, sadly I see my world as a different colour to most. Hey, does this mean we all have the same coloured glasses on in here?