Correct Response ?

[Deleted member 24866]

So I am at work and a young person (who I appreciate for a laugh generally) was acting stupid. I walk around the corner full pace and she kicks at throat level I stop.. 6" from my throat. If I did not stop it would have hit. I told her simply "that was to close". Later in the night I walk around the corner again full pace and she throws a series of mock punches, again had I not stopped she would have struck me, I dropped what was in my hands and pinned her with my forearm to her throat/ after playfully initially showing I could block her shit. I felt the adrenaline rise..and with all seriousness told her to stop. It diffused and she seemed to learn a lesson, yet I feel guilty. What they hell should I have done in this most inappropriate display.. frankly I do not know who physically touched the other first. I don't need the crap at work, and she needs to learn to not f@ck with people.. the wrong one may follow through to end it.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

Understand the management lets people get away with way to much and does not like the drama. In some ways as I had been her trainer and am much older feel like I need to teach her, in some ways I see myself in her.. she is a bit loco. She did really mellow after it but it still seems inappropriate and I feel kinda guilty. Also I really miss sparring and have a deep well of aggression I in the near future hope to channel into healthy sparring - she does not know that, I am always very polite at work and take pride in that- maybe why I feel so guilty. Maybe that is part of the problem also in that it felt kinda good. Had I not had fondness and she did this, I don't know if I would have stopped myself, but I guess the whole situation was ridiculous and I should not imagine a scenario that did not actually occur.

 

[Lucycat]

Obviously I do not know the nature of your work. But from where I am sitting this seems like wholly inappropriate behaviour. It seems you were forced to react to put a stop to it.

I think this should be a lesson to her, and if there is anything further make it clear you will report it. As you say, the risk of this escalating to a dangerous situation is very real. I would not want to be friends with a colleague like her - I would do my best to avoid her.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

Obviously I do not know the nature of your work. But from where I am sitting this seems like wholly inapp...

Thank you my feelings exactly. Just a waitress, who walks at a very fast pace - the interference with my job was certainly not appreciated. I can only appreciate this person from the perspective that she is still a silly child basically. I hope she did learn.

 

[Della]

@4melissa , some people just don't know how to act. it's ok to be playful at times but sometimes, people just take things too far at time and it get annoying and sometimes anger the person as well. I'm glad that it's didn't get too bad and that you guys got angry with each other and it would escalate to something worse. It's a time a place for everything and we must learn sometimes to just do things in moderation.

 

[LittleMrsAntisocial]

I was put in the same kind of situation a few weeks ago. I had pizza in my hands, bussing a small (3-5 yr old) child and trying not to panic with all the craziness going on around me. A coworker (speaking deaf-tone) ran up to me (from why she claims saying pizza, I didn't hear it) and with my startle response as high as it is already I told her don't do that again or I was going to punch her. It was more of a warning. I have actually punched people who come up behind me. It's an automatic response for me. So I think you handled the situation very well especially in comparison to how I did. But to each their own I guess.

 

[Friday]

For what it's worth, it sounds like you handled an inappropriate situation... Appropriately.

The feeling inappropriate being the situation itself, not the way you handled it.

 

[LuckyDuck]

I get why at first it seemed strange and how you were thinking over your actions. I don't see anything wrong with what you did. It might not be you coming arou d the corner next time. It might be a patron looking for the bathroom.

 

[Deleted member 24866]

Thanks for the feed back. Much appreciation.