My wife just learned that her father is dying. He may go any day now. I understand my role is to provide support, but I am scared that I will f*ck that all up. Her father is a life-long alcoholic, a smoker, and he has no respect for women, though he refused to ever hold an actual job and made his wife support the family on minimum wage while he sat at home and drank. I have never liked him at all.
To compound things, I can't really be around her family much as the alcoholism sets me off. I grew up with a drunk mother who I had to take care of, and I really get anxious and have terrible physical and mental problems when I'm around people who drink or even if I just see or think too much about people who drink.
But, I have to support my wife through this. And my wife's mother will need a place to stay. She is also an alcoholic who drinks all day every day and has no income or assets. I can't have her in the house, and I can't have her around our son.
I don't have a question for anyone, I guess I'm just spitting this out there. I don't know what to do.
I want to just say, f*ck them. They made their bed, and now they can lie in it. But, I sill have to support my wife through this. On top of things, I am the family's only income, and we don't have money for plane tickets, funerals, or anything like that. But, I believe I will be expected to pay for these things just as I took a 2nd job for my wife to attend her brother's wedding, though I couldn't afford to go with her.
To compound things, I can't really be around her family much as the alcoholism sets me off. I grew up with a drunk mother who I had to take care of, and I really get anxious and have terrible physical and mental problems when I'm around people who drink or even if I just see or think too much about people who drink.
But, I have to support my wife through this. And my wife's mother will need a place to stay. She is also an alcoholic who drinks all day every day and has no income or assets. I can't have her in the house, and I can't have her around our son.
I don't have a question for anyone, I guess I'm just spitting this out there. I don't know what to do.
I want to just say, f*ck them. They made their bed, and now they can lie in it. But, I sill have to support my wife through this. On top of things, I am the family's only income, and we don't have money for plane tickets, funerals, or anything like that. But, I believe I will be expected to pay for these things just as I took a 2nd job for my wife to attend her brother's wedding, though I couldn't afford to go with her.
