Deciding on new therapist

[saraemerald]

I've gone through about ten before I found the right one and she is awesome

 

[Lamename01234]

I have one question and I am sorry if I missed it in another thread. Are you planning on going back to the t you love after her sabbatical?
If so I would definitely go with first T and get the support you need and work on your targeted goals. If not I would go with the most trauma informed. Just my 2 cents.

 

[UnicornSightings]

No. Because even though I love her not a whole lot got done. She helped me in so many ways but it was stagnant. I was content to stay with stagnant if it meant staying with her but I gotta break free and grow. I think I’ll stick with the guy. Geez, who knows, maybe after awhile I won’t be nervous around guys. Like I’m nervous around my own dad. Is that normal? Are all daughters nervous around their dads? He never did anything to me. Anyway, it’d be cool to work on that even though that was never the intention.

 

[Butterflies2023]

UnicornSightings

Please tell us what decision you will stick too?!


When reading these replies I had a sudden realization an - AHA Moment -
I now know why I responded to my T at my first appointment that bothered me for so many years.

He has a double door (Two doors to his office). Upon leaving my appointment - I asked why he has two doors?
He asked me "why do you think I have 2?" (answer a question with a question - typical T response right :0 )
I replied "to keep me locked in!"
That's the story of my life - being locked in - confined.

 

[UnicornSightings]

UnicornSightings

Please tell us what decision you will stick too?!


When reading these repli...

Whoa! Cool that you had that epiphany now! I’ll still meet with the first t but I’m leaning toward what’s difficult. I’ve been in therapy awhile and am in a good place. I feel strong and am working on my goals and have so much I look forward to. I feel strong and can handle difficult emotions better. Not great but better. Some part of me wants to stick with the nervous shaking therapy. And I don’t feel it will traumatize me unless he’s a creeper so there’s not really any risk. It’s affordable. So I think I’ll go the winter with it, keep working on my own goals and explore the stuff that I blurt out there and the fear.