Depression And Relationships.

[NukaGirl]

Didn't know if I should post this here or not.

Basically, I've been dating this guy for nearly 11 months. It's been absolutely fantastic.

But lately, my mood has been super low and depression has settled in. Again. And it's making me begin to doubt my relationship. When I'm wih him, I'm happy and I forget all about how depressed I am. When I'm not with him... the depression and doubt gets really bad. Is this normal after sufferring a trauma? Is it normal for when depression settles in to feel this way? I know I love him and that I'm in love with him.

The same thing happened to me with my last partner around the same time of year. Depression and doubt. Except he broke up with me. This partner is more supportive than the last. Someone please tell me this will pass and I can go back to being happy.

 

[Nebulustrix]

The fact that the depression is hitting during periods of separation from your partner and goes away when you're with him makes me think you might be struggling with a fear of abandonment?

 

[Justmehere]

Or possible attachment wounding from trauma?

I will feel this or panic at times when I spend time with people where I feel good and then I will slide really low and/ or panicky.

Maybe more distractions or more time with friends would help ride through the depression more? Are you in therapy? There is a good chance it will change and pass as you work on things in therapy. It changes for me a lot. I go through seasons of it being worse and better.

 

[NukaGirl]

Sorry I haven't replied. Been rather busy.

It's incredibly difficult to fight through the doubt, to remind myself that it's the depression making me feel this way.

I do indeed have abandonment issues, rooted in my childhood. My Mother gave me away to my Grandparents and wanted nothing to do with me.

Also, the depression has started striking when I'm with him. It's just not as severe. I am happy with him. Very happy with him, and I don't want my relationship to end because of something that doesn't want to go away.