Desparate

[Fumuro]

Hi,
Im new on here. My fiance was in the US marines. He has severe PTSD and is also an alcoholic. This was all under control when we forst got together but since he moved over to the UK to be with me he has got worse. 2 of his friends have died (one was a suicide) in the last few days and thats set him right off. Currently he is AWOL. I have no idea whats going to happen to him. I have 2 kids so I have locked the doors. Hes never been nasty but I am scared - hes never done this before. He is booked into rehab (28 days residential) on Wednesday but Im scared he's going to do something stupid. I dont know what to do

 

[Epinu]

Currently he is AWOL. I have no idea whats going to happen to him. I have 2 kids so I have locked the doors. Hes never been nasty but I am scared -

By AWOL do you mean you have reported him missing to the police, or just that you don't know where he is?

 

[Bovic]

Is he AWOL from the USMC? Or you just don't know where he is?

 

[Oku]

Has he acted out with aggression or violence in the past? You say he's never been "nasty" but you seem scared for the safety of yourself and your children. Has he made threats to hurt himself or others in the past or now?

If you have any concerns for the safety of you, your children, and/or him please call a local crisis number and discuss the matter with them. Even if you are unsure as to what is happening, it's ok to call a crisis line about someone else who is in crisis and ask them what to do about it.

That all being said, if two close friends of mine died days before going into treatment, I could see myself as a sufferer isolating in a way that could be sudden but not a matter of imminent danger to myself or others.

 

[Sere]

thats set him right off.

Can you explain a bit more what you mean by 'set him right off'

Hes never been nasty but I am scared - hes never done this before.

I understand you are scared, and that you are also concerned about protecting your children, but can you explain what he has done to make you scared so that we have a better picture of what is going on?

 

[Oweba]

Did you know him at all in person before he moved to the UK?