Destructive

[Faketan]

My partner recently triggered me by getting very agressive with me and saying I deserve the abuse i had in my past relationship. He has spent the two days since then acting as if I'm the worst girlfriend. I'm now fully on a course to destruct everything , I'm angry and hurt and I can't stop feeling taurmented . I don't know what to believe anymore and I'm so angry that people treat me this way or I let them.just wanting to feel some support and ways to keep myself from doing something I really regret as I just don't know how to stop the momentum now

 

[Justmehere]

Dump your partner. They. Are. Wrong.

You didn’t deserve the abuse.

Stay safe. :hug:

 

[Faketan]

Thanks for the quick response

 

[Friday]

Sometimes destruction is a good thing. Like breaking up with someone who says you deserve to be abused. Although, technically, that’s not you destroying rhe relationship... they did that. You’re just clearing away the rubble.

 

[Sweetleaf]

You should definitely break up with him and get yourself out of that situation.

Do you live with him?

 

[Faketan]

Yeah we live together so it's been pretty constant I'm totally dissociative now

 

[Faketan]

You should definitely break up with him and get yourself out of that situation.

Do you live with hi...

Yeah we live together so it's been pretty constant and I'm totally dissociative now. When I'm like this I'm numb then I can flip at any moment which I hate. I try to control it but then I just loose consciousness in a way and do it anyway

 

[Sweetleaf]

Do you have a place you can go?

 

[Faketan]

Yes I can go to my family home, iv just got to motivate myself

Do you have a place you can go?

 

[Sweetleaf]

Okay, well it's good that you have somewhere you can go. I'm really sorry he's causing you to feel so distressed, it's completely unacceptable what he did. If his behavior has you dissociating it would definitely be wise to just jump ship and go there sooner than later. You don't need to say anything to him if you don't want to, just bail out. It's not worth staying with someone who is willing to be verbally abusive like that.

 

[EveHarrington]

I agree, exit the relationship.

If not, you aren’t going to heal and you’ll likely just get worse.

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

Your partner is wrong and also a total dick I’m so sorry he’s treating you like this. It’s totally unacceptable.