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Sufferer Diagnosed With Ptsd, But Not Sure What To Do With That

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Mozzie

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I was recently diagnosed with PTSD. I was in therapy for months and this is what my therapist said. I have looked into it and I definitely see that I have many of the the symptoms, but it does feel odd. I was neglected as a child and this seems to be the source of my PTSD. I just don't quite understand how neglect could cause PTSD as I thought you had to have more of a trauma to have this. I feel bad saying I have PTSD when I wasn't even physically abused as a kid. I don't know, I'm just confused. I am here just looking for answers, I suppose. Thanks to all those who took the time to read.
 
Hi, many of us here discovered later on in therapy that we had repressed abuses and traumas that we were not aware of early on in our therapy. This could be the case with you, maybe, but it could also take a lot more therapy to uncover these traumas. Also, even though you may not be aware of these traumas (if they exist) you can still have PTSD symptoms associated with them. This can happen because the unconscious mind will react to those traumas, even though your conscious mind is unaware of them.

Relax, take a deep breath and be patient with the time your therapy takes to find these things, if they do exist.

Oh, and if you are having Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) you may not ever uncover them, as this deals with the aftermath of the traumas, (to my knowledge) but not the traumas themselves. At least, that has been my experience with CBT. If anyone else here has a different experience with CBT, feel free to correct me!
 
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There was another post about this recently. If you type "neglect" into search, more will come up. I don't know how it relates to PTSD but I know connection to an adult is necessary for our survival as young kids. We certainly don't have fight-flight power. Our instinct is to attach to a protective adult. If we don't have that, the whole world is unsafe.
 
Welcome!

My understanding, which could be wrong as this isn't my area, is that severe neglect means that you are in a life threatening situation day in and day out... Even if you aren't aware of it? Your brain is. Because it's starving, and periodically at risk of dying from exposure, and having to cope with situations far beyond its normal developmental ability to do so.

So the base levels aren't being met (food, shelter*, human contact**) which is life threatening. Adding in having of cope with situations outside its ability to do so? In addition to asynchronistic development, which is a natural byproduct... Means a whole lot of other life threatening situations (from nearly run over by cars, to assaults or needing to learn to avoid on your own assaults by people/animals, to untreated illness & injury, etc.).

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* Shelter includes adequate clothing for the weather outside/inside, even if one does have a "home". Neglected kids are often dehydrated and suffer from prolonged hypothermia as well as severe sunburn, heat exhaustion, periodic heat stroke.

** Some really horrifying studies (observe & track only, they didn't "do" anything to the kids... They only observed what happened to them as their daily life, and then followed them for decades to see if there were any trends) have been conducted in Russian & Eastern Bloc orphanages, in places where culturally it's not desirable to raise other people's children. A side effect of this is that the staff "handle" the orphanage children as little as possible. Changing diapers, handing bottles and walking away, etc. While these children are often excellently cared for in all other ways (good nutritious food, well dressed, safe place to be/sleep/play, medical needs attended to, educated, etc.... No neglect *except* for the lack of physical human contact) the lack of physical contact had been directly correlated to a large percentage of infants "failing to thrive" (dying), and the vast majority of the rest developing serious psychological conditions (attachment disorders & psychopathy being the 2 most common).

These studies are the foundation why western medicine flipped 180 degrees and now insists on parental involvement in all levels of medical care possible, volunteers are used to "handle" children as much as possible (stroking infants in incubators to carrying children places instead of wheeling them, when possible, etc.) if parents are unable to, & spurred on skin-to-skin & similar studies which have found some amaaaaaazing things medically (too many to list). Similar cross cultural studies have been done on opposite cultures, as well (Like in Bali, where infants are "supposed" to be in arms for their entire first year / never let their feet touch the ground).
 
I think FridayJones has it right. Being neglected as a child is life-threatening and is therefore traumatic. There are a lot of needs a child has and not just physical ones. We need to be cared for, we need to interact with others. It's a necessary part of one's development.

Sheilakathy is right too; without the proper level of attention, children will feel unsafe. Children often feel unsafe even when they have a normal level of attention from parents. I've seen that with my own son. Parents can't be everywhere at once and there are moments during a perfectly normal life where kids will feel threatened. Without a parent coming along after a frightening situation to comfort a child, not feeling safe sticks around and can affect development.

Point is that neglect is not trivial.

I can't say that I was neglected as a child. That said, my caregivers were sort of bystanders after I was abused by a neighbor. I don't blame them for it as an adult, but as a child there was a huge sense of betrayal and abandonment. I can forgive in the present but at the same time honor the little me inside that still feels the hurt.

However, it sounds like you have a smart therapist and are in good hands. You'll find lots of support here.

With that, welcome to the forum!
 
I was a little surprised to find my childhood included abuse, neglect and emotional abuse. Seemed like such a Mayberry upbringing. EMDR really illiuminated some things for me. CBT has been usefull too. I knew about the adult things, turns out childhood explains both the bad decisions that got me to a bad day and my reaction to the bad days.
 
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