Dialectical Behavior Therapy

[Bopper]

The Module we are talk about, is a series of sessions about a particular aspect of the training; ours in San Diego is about 4 wks per each module at one session per week ($250 per ea if we were taking it at a college!)
the training is pretty disciplined so we get what we can out of each session, and work the skills and do homework and so on.

I can sooooo relate to the socialization loss we're all feeling (or not feeling); and I was in a room of the house once for one whole year. In that time I had friends online... I really believe that friends online can make a difference to those of us who self isolate ourselves for any length of time; or who are only 'functional' in the real world to the degree required to 'go along to get along'

as I've heard from T; when it all becomes interesting from a psychological POV, is when any of it interferes with having a life

 

[anni]

You do hear an awful lot of extremely real stories of the dangers online. They're true, too-of course. It's a murky world, like the old fairy tales come to life and whomever dubbed the proverbial 'bad guys' online 'trolls' helped this association a ton, didn't they? BUT- there's also a great deal of good out there, used with plain common sense. This forum, for instance, if one pays attention, is wonderful. Trolls are tolerated for 20 seconds before being sent back to terrorizing Billy Goat Gruff's Bridge, and Anthony wrote a very, very clear sort of Dummies Guide on internent/forum how-to-not interact with others. I agree- online friendships are real, the humans behind them of course there and they're terribly healing. You haven't just bumped into someone in the park, either-it's here where you already recognize what the furniture looks like in each other's heads because what we've been through and what it's left us with is so similar. It does take some navigating, to be sure-have made mistakes which can only be laid at my door, noone else's but also a few dear, dear friends I badly needed. I'll meet them in 3-D, too, am looking forward to that.

I was just poking fun at myself with the modules- do not step out of my own comfort zone much with progressive therapies, etc. I wouldn't know a POV if it bit me and left a mark. It's the sort of thing which if one tries to BS one's way through a conversation, I'd have my pants yanked down in a big hurry! It's an interesting thread to read, however- I can pretty much get an idea of what-goes-where-and-why.

 

[BloomInWinter]

We're still working on the mindfulness skills right now.

Also, the whole rational mind/wise mind/emotion mind circles. Where we usually are with them, what parts of us are in wise mind and when, how to identify that and nurture it. Takes practice. Practice takes effort.

Trying to identify pieces of me...where they are. Maybe that's just it...I can't pinpoint the whole of me on the continuum where I reside most of the time because there *is* no whole.

But if I can feel ok about some of the pieces, maybe that's something to build on.

 

[BloomInWinter]

Ugh. This afternoon's group got me.

Assignment 1 was: Write down your three WORST qualities.

IRL, I'm Critical. Overbearing. Aggressive.

Then, assignment 2: "Answer the follow questions. Would you want to work with someone with those qualities? Be neighbors with them? Be friends with them? Have them as a partner?"

*ULP.

Nope.

Ow. Ow. Ow. Owwwww!

 

[BloomInWinter]

Some evidence that seems to be supporting the mindfulness....

[DLMURL]http://nccam.nih.gov/research/results/spotlight/012311.htm[/DLMURL]

 

[OKRADLAK]

DBT helped me. The only therapy that ever helped. I have troubled finding a T that does it right, with the groups, the skills trainer and the T. I had that all once and it was amazing.

No matter how much you have, it sticks with you. 7 modules is a lot and that will really help. Keep trying to get the rest if you can!